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You so badly just want to walk away when you don't like something "petty" about him.
"But isn't that just being shallow?"
Here's a surprise for ya -- you are not as "shallow" as you were made to believe.
If women are truly shallow, vain, vapid, selfish, only care about looks, only care about money, insanely materialistic, and blah blah blah;
and he wouldn't have a partner,
and he wouldn't have a partner,
and he wouldn't have a partner.
If you are truly "shallow" as you were brainwashed to believe -- do you really think these pretty, beautiful ladies "want" to be married to these challenging men?
But they do -- because women are not as shallow as what patriarchy likes to project on us.
Yeah, you have physical and look standards on the man you desire.
But at the furthest core of it all -- what is it that you truly desire in a relationship?
To be with a kind, decent, humble, reliable HV man that treats you as his precious, treats you good, and continue to prove how precious you are to him every single day.
You know it already;
It is not hard to fall in love with a good man that treats you well.
It happens all the time -- this man's wife called him a "funny little man" but he didn't give up, continue to (respectfully) court her to the best of his ability and she fell in love eventually.
So the point is this;
It is NOT your job to worry about "accidentally" rejecting a "good man".
It is NOT your job to keep giving any and every man a "chance" in fear of "accidentally" rejecting the "rare good man" and anxiously worry that you will "lost him forever".
That's what the patriarchy WANT you to believe -- you know, so that the supply of bangmaid doormat ready to serve men at any moment doesn't dry up.
It is HIS job to PROVE that he is the one WORTHY of your attention.
While you just keep your boundaries and standards and preference sky high.
Let him rise up to the challenge and meet you up there.
Not every woman wants to be with a extremely good-looking guy -- but if that's your preference, that's your preference.
Not every woman wants to be with a rich and powerful guy -- but if that's your preference, that's your preference.
Not every woman wants to be with a strong, stocky guy -- but if that's your preference, that's your preference.
Because you are NOT "shallow".
You still see him as a complete human being, and you fall in love with the whole of him -- ya know, unlike scrotes that marry a woman just so he can have a mommy bangmaid at his beck and call 24/7 while having 32, 546 mistresses on the side.
So keep your boundaries and standards and preference sky high -- and let him meet you up there.
Walk away the instant something about him repels you off.
Stop worrying too much -- much of what you were brought up to believe about yourself, about womanhood as a whole are LIES anyway.
Start focusing on your comfort and your needs and your wants.
Remember, courtship process should be fun, exciting, and comfortable -- and he SHOULD make you feel safe and secure ALL THE WAY.
If the person who are currently pursuing you failed to do so? CUT HIM OFF. WALK AWAY.
Stay safe, Stay WOMAN.
Stop giving ugly men a chance. Men would never give an 'ugly' woman a chance. Stop giving out of shape men a chance. Men always clown on overweight women without a care in the world and refuse to be in a public relationship with her. Stop giving stupid men chances, stop giving mean men chances, stop giving low effort men chances, stop giving dirt poor men chances. Because ultimately, men have high standards and will never budge them for any woman. Period.
I have never ever in my life regretted letting a man go. I might have felt hurt or confused at the moment, but after some time my reasons/gut feelings/intuition "why" proved themselves to be very true and accurate. What I HAVE regretted is every single time I "gave him a chance" and held on despite my reasons/gut feelings/intuition. Letting a man in my life who does things to set off my inner alarm bells has caused a lot of trauma and destruction in my life. In either scenerio, the man almost always gaslit, stonewalled, and/or played victim about the issues. The man, his or your friends and family may blame and shame you. This is because they have their own selfish wants and expectations, they're not concerned about your well being at all. Most people get a nasty case of Himpathy in these situations. So I figure if I, as a woman, am the one that's going to take the blame or suffer the consequences regardless (and you will), I'm going to choose what's best for me!!
Thank you for blessing us with 2 posts in a day! This was much needed after dumping yet another LVM.
my hard earned peace is NOT worth losing.
also I find men to be the most shallow considering how they treat us like a walking sex toy and working mule
Your posts are Always on point, thanks for the quality content, queen.
It’s like you read our minds @SayNad I was just thinking about this and wondering about it matters to me how the man, provides and cares for me and treats me as his precious. I don’t have a preference on height but I prefer an attractive and confident man. So for me it’s how he is as and what he does to prove to be a man that has fall in love with. Women should never feel shame for what they prefer and want in a HVM. As long as the man is High value FOR you!! I’m so glad and honored to read your posts and to be a part of this community. Thank you for blessing us with your beautiful words, wisdom and knowledge.
I was doubting myself a bit today, that maybe I was asking too much, and so thank you. This was much needed.
I've never gone out with a guy who isn't good looking and never will!!! This is so true though and I'm trying to let go on first sight that he isn't doing it: It is HIS job to PROVE that he is the one WORTHY of your attention.
Yep! Men are allowed to be "shallow" yet we're conditioned to take shits. I love your posts!!!
Queen… You are the best. Thank you for your posts!