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Much like we should never stop vetting, even if we think he is HV, I'm coming to believe that women should never completely shut the door on other potential suitors. I'm of course assuming the woman married someone who met all her standards, and not that she settled for LV trash. Even still, meeting standards shouldn't be the be-all and end-all. There might, however bleak this chance may be, be other men who even exceed those standards. In this case, a married woman would benefit from exiting her marriage and entering a new one. I know this already happens in cases where his inevitable scrotiness rears its ugly head, leading to divorce. But in this case, up until the divorce, the wife will have lost time in possibly finding a higher-value man. She would have benefited the maximum had she hadn't blocked advances from potentially beneficial men.
Marriage is a contract. And, at times (so many times, from what we see and hear, sadly), this contract might not benefit you. By keeping her options open, a woman safeguards her well-being and future. It goes without saying that this isn't supposed to be done openly, for the woman's own safety, physical, financial and psychological. You never know (we actually do) how an enraged scrote might react.
troll. marriage is commitment. women should keep their self-worth intact after marrying and leave if they're in a situation where it's being compromised
My parents are divorced. It is probably the worst experience anyone could ever have in life. I’d never want to go through that just because I could do “better”. No one should ever do it unless it’s a last resort because your husband is abusive and LV. Also who says who you marry is going to be hv vs your husband who you at least have been vetting hopefully for years.
While I can totally understand why women should keep their options open in this scenario, ultimately, we would be as bad as the men who do it. Now, men do this for nefarious reasons so I’m not saying our motives are the same but wrong is wrong. As the saying goes, two wrongs don’t make a right.
Like one poster said, a man who engages emotionally or physically with a married woman is LV. A HV man wouldn’t entertain a taken woman. Women have to be the bigger and better person and simply end a bad marriage, be single, regroup and when she’s ready to date if she wants to, she’ll have to vet a new man.
Men are also perceptive. If a man knows that a woman is in a relationship/married and wants a relationship with him, he won’t respect her because cheating is wrong and her broken character would be on display for him to see. Even if her reasoning is that her partner doesn’t treat her well, he will not respect her because he will wonder why she doesn’t leave. Both LV and HV men think this way.
I’ve been saying this for YEARS! I think I may have even said this to my eldest daughter last night as well! Lol
Marriage is a govt contract. I like the idea of having to renew it maybe every 10 years, like you have to your license or re certify if you are in a scientific field. That way both parties know that in 10 years time, if something doesn't improve or if promises in the contract were broken, then they can get out of the marriage. I think that's a more realistic take now that people are living until they are 80+ years old.
I can see what you mean because women who have had multiple husbands are seen as cunning and successful but with men they're considered perpetually divorced or a loser
Some men who are in supposed happy relationships or marriages still like to keep their options open, so there's that.
I agree with your take.
Here's my unpopular view on heterosexual relationships:
It is OK for women to cheat. It is not OK for men to cheat.
Telling women not to cheat is a tool of the patriarchy to keep women trapped in relationships that don't suit their needs. In many parts of the world, multi-dating (a.k.a. keeping a roster) as a woman is unacceptable because it is considered "cheating". In all these cultures, women are guilted and socially straight-jacketed into wasting their time with one man (at a time) who, in all probability, is a scrote.
I'll say it again: women should be allowed to cheat. Men should not. Double standards definitely apply here.