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Every day, I see the narrative being pushed that women aren't doing enough to break more dating gender norms.
The same topics come up over and over again:
- Women should ask men out.
- Women should pay for dates
- Women should propose.
- Women should buy men flowers.
And when women do these things, it gives commercialized feminism. It's fake equality between the sexes.
Does anyone question why this framework is so popular? Why is this idea being pushed, and by whom?
Men.
Men are out there applauding like hyenas yet I rarely see them breaking any gender norms in dating.
Where are the articles about men doing the female equivalent? What would that look like? Where is there "empowerment" movement?
*Crickets*
They'll never be out there doing anything remotely feminine in the dating world. That's why they hold disdain for women getting the princess treatment because they secretly want it to be them. Jealousy is a disease. They should live in their feminine truth so they can stop hurting us.
The older I get, the more I realize men don't actually want to break gender norms. They want to do the bare minimum while using feminism as an excuse for why women should do more.
Yes to everyone commenting that men believe the "feminine" role is to do nothing of value.
And building on that...
The patriarchy - including individual men, pickmes, and dating culture profiteers - want women to do all the work while men do none of it.
Women already put a ton of effort into dating, and we don't want to do even more. That's where this propaganda comes in - to make us think things we wouldnt naturally think (e.g. "I should pay my boyfriend's bills")
Men are already underachieving in their role as the masculine provider, quite happily and naturally. Theres simply no need for propaganda telling men to do less.