Why have a "scrotation?"

The “scrotation” works on the principle that there are multiple excellent, available, and interested men for you to date at any given time. I cringe every time I see this word, because it’s both ugly and a misnomer - any “rotation” a woman has should not be comprised of “scrotes,” obviously.

I could see how a rotation might be more easily achieved for someone very young, where there is a large dating pool of single men in their age group, and maybe they also live in some Hidden Valley of High Value Males where these men are abundant.

But mostly I believe the scrotation is a myth, and if you force yourself to maintain one when HV men are not abundant, it becomes an unhealthy avoidance mechanism: e.g. entertaining lower value men (e.g. wasting your own time) to keep you from getting too obsessed over one man.

It never worked for me. I was kidding myself, and avoiding dealing with the inner issues that made me obsess over particular men by distracting myself with attention from losers.

I believe I saw an article on the handbook that said you can make a ‘scrotation’ without the men. It’s essentially making it so your world doesn’t revolve around him. Make sure your rotating family, friends/going out and socializing, kids, and alone time/self care with him.

My understanding/approach is to date multiple HV men until:

a. They eliminate themselves by displaying LV behavior

b. One explicitly signals commitment

c. You don't feel like it

I don't think anyone is suggesting a scrotation of NV/ZV/LV men.

Sounds like exhausting work tbh.

>Aren't I better off not dating anyone at all?

you are.

scrotation is very inpractical in my opinion. it's one of the FDS principles i don't intend to follow if i ever decide to date again. trying to date men takes up too much time and energy with all the vetting i need to do. it's exhausting. besides, i've always had a hard time getting one date, can't even begin to imagine how hard it is to get several.

but answering your question, i think the point is to avoid growing too attatched to one guy. if you have a few guys here and there, apparently it's easier to keep the focus on yourself and your objectives with dating. you can compare them to each other, you get to practice your vetting, get better at it, and you can have fun in the process. i don't think it would be fun to me, but i understand it can be for other women.

You don't have to keep men around just to have them. Especially if they hurt you or are jackasses or you just plain get bad feelings from them. It's just if you have viable options, you don't have to make a choice right away. Block and delete when you know or have a feeling that he's a piece of shit.

Reasons to have a rotation of men:

When you date one person, you may fall into the trap of scarcity where one of the reasons you don't want to part with that guy, even if he's a piece of shit, because you'll never find another guy. Abundance mindset is where it's at, you'll know that you're still desired even if you have to drop one person, or a man doesn't choose you.

If you're seeing a bunch of guys, you won't have the energy to do extra for one man. Cleaning, dishes, tidying, buying them food/gifts, all the extra wifey benefits; if you are desired by a few guys, you are prize, you are the table. You don't have to do anything because just being you is enough. That's why those guys are dating you, not for the things you do for them.

If you're feeling tired from dating, take a break.