Why do men compare you to celebrity women?

they mean it as a compliment but like with most compliments that men give, it's lazy, unoriginal and low effort and probably means he wants to have sex with you

I get told I look like a certain 90s sitcom character all the time by both men and women so I don't really get bothered if a man says it because I really do look like the character

I don't know, kinda feels like they're using women as a "budget" alternative to live out whatever sad fantasies they have.

I never understood this either. I think it's not only a turn-off but maybe they are delusional. I notice, especially during the AH vs JD everyone was using AH as some kind of label that because this "celebrity" (I guess lol) woman that is typically out of reach to your avg scrote, like SEE even this celeb "hits the wall"! I see ytubers advising men warning them using celebrity examples, "see even celebrities like Megan Fox choose MGK and get hurt!" Like.. life happens to everyone even celebs idk why they use it as some kind of shameful thing. Men keep having celeb crushes and want their girls that look the most similar to because that's who they keep jerking it to.

It's unfair cause I am a nerdy anime/games loving girl why can't I find a man that looks like my anime male crushes? I don't go around comparing men to Leon Kennedy or Solid Snake. No actual man would even hold a light up to the HVM in games I have crushes on.

It's cheap, it's definitely not a compliment especially if you don't know what they really mean and if you get that ick feeling. It is a form of "subtle" negging. It's low effort... I can go on and on.. You are attractive on your own. Period. My NVM exes compared me with pornstars especially one in particular 🤡 Used to think it was such a great compliment. Silly pickme-me.

🚩🚩Red flags for low-effort. I was never sure what to say in response to comparison- compliments, even in my Pick-Me days. It's so awkward to hear, and the societal expectation around me is to express gratitude towards the man for "trying" 🤮. I used to try to make myself feel flattered, but it was a real stretch, because even then I was trying to manually override "the ick" feeling that that "compliment" had stirred in me 😒. Now, I know better from lived experience and see it for what it is-- feedback about him and what he values instead. More on this later. I see "compliments" like this as a form of objectification. I also think that when a "compliment" gives you the ick😮‍💨, then you need to listen to that gut feeling and what it tells you about this man. For me in the past, my Pick-Me conditioning would have compelled me to give all men the benefit of the doubt each time, because, "Awww, he tried! 🤡 That's so sweet! 🤡🤡 He's trying!🤡🤡🤡" Is he? Is he, though? THIS is considered trying?! This live feed of thought-popped-in-head-must-exit-mouth? 💩 Come on, man. All the possible combinations of words you could string together in the English language, and what you come up with is to compare me to someone else? 🙄 It just says he hasn't paid attention to me, the human being, for long enough to say anything directly about me that he likes. It's about him. Next. 👋 💥It's not hard to genuinely compliment someone, it just takes effort and active interest in someone else as a person, and real compliments are simply HONEST. This whole scenario is an excellent example of, "If he wanted to, he would." If he wanted to bother giving you an actual compliment about you, he would. And your gut feeling (the ick!) is saying that too. 🖤 I think a compliment or any commentary given says something about the character and values of the man giving it, so much so that it nullifies the actual words being thrown your way. In fact, I would say don't take any of it as actual feedback about you on any real level that matters to you, because, despite what he's saying to you, he's actually telling on himself right now! Low-effort, not thoughtful, unoriginal, objectifies women, not genuine, dishonest, careless, etc. ✌️ And what's more, the motive isn't rooted in actually wanting to compliment YOU, because if he did want to do that successfully, he wouldn't COMPARE YOU to someone ELSE, would he? He's not actually complimenting you for you but as a reminder of someone else. Flattering and not at all insulting, right? 😬 For explanation here, I'll brainstorm what the motive behind this BS "compliment" could be, but I want to emphasize that the fact that he did this in the first place demonstrates low-value, low-effort behavior, period. No matter the motive behind it. I personally write off any guy when the ick feeling comes in after comments like this. Thoughtfulness is bare minimum! That all being said, I also think this is useful to go over for learning purposes here. So. Motive behind comparing you to a celebrity "as a compliment". We have a bleak, boring spectrum of ick to ickier. At best, he isn't thinking at all (aww, so sweet 🥺), and at worst, he knows exactly what he's doing and is trying to make you feel insecure about yourself so you seek external validation from him (blood-red flag 🚩). Falling somewhere between the two extremes, it's plausible he's saying it because that's the best he can come up with (yep, that's it. That's his best.😑) or that that's the best that he can muster the DESIRE to come up with, because he's not actually or directly paying sufficient attention to you in order to sincerely compliment you. Once again, he is telling on himself, in that he doesn't actually give two shits about complimenting you. He's boring and two-dimensional. 🥱 It's low-effort and self-serving instead of genuinely generous. There's a reason it feels annoying to you. Heed that. You ARE attractive on your own, he just doesn't want to pay actual attention to you to say anything about your individual attractiveness as a whole human woman. That takes effort. You don't need anything from him anyway, Queen 👑. He's dismissed. In my opinion, "compliments" like that are sourced in a distinct lack of imagination and lack of forethought, and I take all of this as a reflection on the character of the man saying it. It's not attractive and it's an odd choice of action for them because the idea would seem to be that they are trying to get in your good graces (?) with as minimal effort as possible. Next. For me, the ick feeling of annoyance tells me about him-- and I don't ignore it in the name of giving him the benefit of the doubt, as this just enables his lack of effort. Since these low-effort "compliments" are inevitable, I just take it as feedback on the man saying it and move on. 👋 TL;DR: he sucks, he's boring, and your intuition is telling you that in real time by your annoyance. Next. 😂

Also, if they want to make enough money to keep up with all the fillers, surgery, skincare, fitness whatever…. To keep up go right ahead. Oh wait…. They think we are being a gold digger then! Lol. They don’t make enough money to support all that.

This comparison usually tells me that it’s a woman they’ve jacked off to and find attractive. A lot of these men don’t meet a lot of women in their real lives so it’s all celebrities, anime, hentai and and OF cReAtOrS 🤡 I’ve been compared to a couple of actresses and porn stars. It’s not a compliment and gave me immediate ick 🤮

I'm Pakistani from the Punjab, and I get compared to Indian actresses who are actually a completely different ethnicity. It's like being told all brown people look alike.

I hate it. I'm a redhead and they compare me to every ginger female character, no matter what they actually look like.

I think it’s a neg at the worse and a show of insecurity at the least. He’s trying to compare you to someone who is rich. They have way more advantages and investment in their appearance than us regular everyday people can. Being compared to a celebrity can easily make you paranoid to always stay looking amazing just like that celebrity. Whenever someone says I look like a celebrity if they don’t include the actual compliment like “you’re so pretty you look like X” I don’t take it well. Looks are subjective so even if you think that celeb is attractive they may not. Also if they are saying you’re celebrity level attractive it may be their insecurity that they’re not on your level and are trying to make you feel self-conscious.

Because they interact with few to no wimen IRL. Their mom doesn't count. They have no appreciation of women outside sex and sexual gratification. I'll bet. They haven't seen without objectification the women around them and watching famous singers on a screen doesn't count. They are the guys that watch porn and then say your vulva is wrong because it's not naturally pink, pale and hairless.

Not sure where you live, but the USA is very celebrity crazed. Most people would be delighted to resemble someone famous and perceive such an observation as high praise. You said yourself that the singer is conventionally attractive so telling you again is redundant.

Of course, if you don't really look like this singer, it's nothing but laziness on their part -- an easy conversation starter they presume will flatter you, or pick-up line, so to speak.

You ask why you can't be attractive on your own but you clearly know you are, as do they.

I am presuming this is generally said upon meeting you, and that, in the course of getting to know you, they will tender other compliments about your appearance, unrelated to this well known singer.

I understand these comparisons put you off, but I do not think they will stop until the game of the person you resemble fades or one of you changes your hair color (a friend of mine looks just like Natasha Lyonne and more often than not, it is the first observation people make about her) .

If the person saying this to you seems like someone you might like to get to know, you could share that you do not enjoy such comparisons and guage their reaction.

But I do not think making one such remark means anything really -- it doesn't signify low or high value.

I'm only offended when I know they're only making the comparison, because I'm black and share a similar hairstyle to the celebrity 🙄. I don't bring up comparisons unless I find the celebrity attractive. The blank stare and the "you must get that a lot, huh" definitely sounds like a neg

My ex compared me to anime characters.