Why can’t men, be men?

sis I put an expensive appetizer and the words "financial stability" on my profile and let me tell you it did get me less matches, but they did come ever so slightly more correct. hit em with "i'm out of your tax bracket" energy lol

With how most men are, all these apply to them. A lot of men are pathetically lily-livered. The level of fear of everything they have is astounding and yet they want us to respect them and see them as being great, simply because they are men. The jokes write themselves.

They're allergic to anything that might imply social obligations. If they never invoke said obligations with the magic words, they believe they are not required to meet them, though they are engaged in the very definition of these activities or titles.

If he never calls it a date, you have no right to expect him to plan a date or treat you as a date. If he never calls you his girlfriend, you have no right to expect emotional and sexual fidelity from him.

The real kicker is - of course he expects you to act like it's a date and he expects you to be faithful to him and give him the girlfriend experience. Because he knows. He knows we honor social convention, regardless of whatever descriptors we're using. But he only bothers with such social niceties if it suits him, and tosses it aside when it's inconvenient or would require a significant level of reciprocation.

It's classic 21st century male manipulation. I'm mad it took me this long to figure out, but I'm writing it here so I can save someone else the trouble.

Thank you SOOOO much for asking this because like you, I've never understood the terror they have with expressing interest in a woman, asking a woman on a date, asking a woman to be their girlfriend and so on. Like you so rightly said, asking a woman on a date or to be your girlfriend doesn't mean that they are stuck with her forever. It's the same way they are terrified if they're actually on a date with a woman and she says that in the future, she'd like to be married with children. These clowns become petrified that she means that he is the husband she's referring to.

Men are petrified of committing to one woman forever and never having the chance to engage with other women sexually. Why that worries them is beyond me. They have this irrational fear of somehow missing out on other women. Last time I checked, a fear would be being afraid of spiders or serial killers but no, with men, the chance to never flirt or sleep with another woman is a fate worse than death. It astounds me how they reason.

For others, the mere fact that they can be rejected is why they never want to come out and say what they mean. They'd rather beat around the bush, be vague or hint at asking a woman out on a date than asking her, point blank. It's like guys who will tell everyone that a new woman he's dating his girlfriend.....without ever asking the woman to actually be his girlfriend. He's too afraid to ask her to be his girlfriend in case she says no so I figure they feel that if they tell other people that she's his girlfriend, when other people ask about them dating, she'll not embarrass him and instead, agree that she's his girlfriend.

The summary of it all are that men are a pathetic mess. The end.