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A reminder to NEVER cohabitate due to financial motivations. You will be trapped in a relationship without a feasible and expedient way to escape. Live within your means without relying on a man, whether that means a studio, a female roommate, staying with trustworthy family, or relocating to a more affordable area. Living with a man may seem cheaper, but it inevitably causes even more insurmountable financial and safety hurdles in the future.
Make careful decisions to safeguard your long-term financial, emotional, and physical well-being!
A few choice quotes from this article:
“Once you move in with someone, it becomes much harder to break up with them. You’d have to find a new apartment, you might have to break a lease or even awkwardly stay in the same place with your ex. These added barriers to breaking up might mean that certain qualities or disagreements that might’ve ended the relationship previously become things that the couple will have to tolerate or work through.”
-> You CANNOT rigorously vet and take necessary action when cohabitating with a boyfriend. You can develop tunnel vision in which you’re desperate to preserve the relationship, over your own personal well-being, instead of leaving him the moment he begins showing LV traits.
“If you’re living with your significant other, you’re probably sharing a bed with that person. Where’s the escape hatch?”
-> Obviously there isn’t one; you have trapped yourself within social, legal, and financial obligations.
Your home must be your safe and peaceful refuge away from men!
https://www.nytimes.com/2022/06/24/realestate/high-rent-couples-living-together.html
Good to see the new york times discussing this. This has been a problem for years in certain cities in the USA but now it's happening everywhere. The best option for women on a budget will always be to move in with a trusted female friend. Female friendships can be invaluable and can add so much to your life!
Cultivating good friendships and supporting other women is a big part of being a HVW in my opinion and there are lots of benefits and less risk than focusing on a man.
I also feel like women get the short end of the stick when they move in with men regarding domestic duties. Most men are messy and lazy and pretend like they can't cook. I have never lived with a boyfriend and I'm proud to say I have never cooked or cleaned for a man EVER 😂
We have a housing crisis where I live and the increase in single person households is usually blamed. How dare those evil young women (men are blamed far less) prefer to live alone in apartments they pay for instead of living with a man the moment they move out from home and having babies! There are already some voices demanding to restrict the amount of square feet allowed per person (the number they have in mind is basically the size of a small dorm room + small kitchen and bathroom) and to make people who live in larger apartments (again: that they PAY FOR THEMSELVES) pay a fine to force more singles to live with other people again.
I'm not saying single households aren't a factor that makes the housing crisis worse. But the solution is building more and finding new concepts, not forcing people who dare to be able to pay for their own, private apartment because they can and prefer it to live with roommates or partners if they don't want to. Fuck that.
I'd rather live alone in a tent than with a roommate or partner against my will.
This post is SO true. I made the mistake myself in my pickme days...I was living with roommates and it did not go well, and it was the same for my BF at the time so it was "so obvious" to move in together (after 4 months! ---dumb ass me) Result: 1,5 year in, relationship fails, hard to find a new place I can afford on my own, have to live with him for 3 months even though we were not together anymore and the lease and admin it required to get out of there, still hanging... Move in only with a ring on your finger!
Excellent reminder 🙏
FACTS. Whoever said that cohabitation was empowering for the "modern woman" lifestyle was lying