When the bill comes and he asks to split, do you refuse to pay or pay then block and delete?

i say pay for your order only and then block and delete. he'll never know the reason why you gave him up.

Laugh like he's joking and say "Oh why, are you broke?" as you pull out your card. Idk. you really don't have to confront men where your safety is concerned. It is better that they don't know why you blocked and deleted so they can't try to change their strategy to sleep with their next date.

I had a guy say I could just leave the tip, as if he was doing me some huge favor. This after I'd driven 30 minutes further than him, arranged for child care, and of course, spent ample time and money to look my best. I smiled sweetly and thanked him, then blocked and deleted as soon as I got home.

I'd say, "Oh, I thought we were on a date. My bad." Pay for what I ordered, say my goodbyes, block and delete.

Always put your safety first. If you are worried he might physically retaliate or stalk you or something, losing the money is worth it. But I recommend standing up and walking out the door without another word. He can't follow you without risking getting the police called for trying to leave without paying. Or you can raise one eyebrow, stand up, politely excuse yourself to the ladies room, and then leave out a back door when he can't see you. If you have a long walk on a public road to get home that might be risky though and it may be safer to pay. Of course, this is why I carry OC spray and a firearm everywhere...

At least you blocked and deleted immediately. What a cheap loser.

I hate when they make things difficult! I think it's quite acceptable to give some push back in the moment and say but you invited me! - then look at him incredulously. And just stare silently. If he raises his voice, split the bill, make nice, then block and delete and get out as soon as possible safely. Any other suggestions I'd love to see.

In this situation, I pay for my order and politely exit. Once I am safely away from the clown I block and delete. Way back when men always paid for dates, provided transportation, etc, women used to carry what they called "mad money" to get away from an awful or unsafe date. I view it as money spent to avoid a potential confrontation with a jerk. Men are unpredictable and can be very aggressive when challenged, so I'd rather not chance it.

I would’ve said, oh no I didn’t know you are unemployed and broke. Do you also need directions to the shelter? I will make him feel like shit to be honest 🤣🤣🤣 but thankfully I have never encountered that. They usually pay the bill when I excuse myself to the ladies room and I always do that after dessert and take my time 😊☺️

I'm so sorry you had to deal with this! I was in this situation a while ago and I insisted to the waiter that I only paid my portion of the bill as the scrote I was on a date with ordered more expensive items than I did. You can handle it different ways depending on the situation. When I felt it wouldn't be safe to confront a scrote, I made sure to ask the waiter to give me the bill for only what I ordered. Immediately after paying I got up and walked out of the restaurant with no goodbye or explanation, just blocked and deleted on my way out. When I was in situations where I could safely do so, I said, "Oh, I thought this was a date." Or gave them a shocked look. They'd often respond by paying for the date.

I straight up leave, usually laughing at them as I do. I was raised that the person who does the inviting pays. If you don't want/can't pay, you don't invite someone out. In fact, even when I'm dining out here it's normal for the check to be handed to the guy at the table.

When I dated seriously, I still lived out in the boonies and had to travel 45+ minutes to the nearest city for a date. I never let men come to my hometown unless it was someone who already lived there (and likely knew me growing up), because 1) THERE IS NOTHING TO DO IN MY HOMETOWN (Seriously, it was a big damn deal when we got a stoplight a few years ago), and 2) once men see the farm and realize what I will inherit they get greedy.

It's still somewhat shameful for a man to ask a woman to pay in our area, at least for the ones who are from here. My father WILL NOT EVER let anyone pay for a meal out. The last guy I dated seriously would arrive early and hand the waiter enough money to cover the entire bill in order to beat my dad to the punch when he ate out with us. This both impressed and infuriated my dad. But that was the only boyfriend of mine I've ever heard my dad speak highly of.

It's also not entirely unheard of here for men to bring food they've hunted or raised/butchered themselves as a way to show they're able to provide (I know it sounds weird but we're SUPER rural and traditional around here. I've received deer jerky, beef, smoked sausage, a damn fine smoked ham, moose, tomatoes fresh from the garden, moonshine, and home brewed mead as gifts before).

Now, the excess of military transplants due to the base in our nearest city not so much, but I don't date those guys.

I replied to a guy who asked me “how do you want to take care of the bill?” With an uncomfortable silence and then I said without hiding my disgust at him“you invited me to dinner, so thank you for paying for it”

then excused myself to the restroom. I then snuck out the front and blocked/deleted him. I guess it would not always be safe to do, but this restaurant was just outside of a mall, so I went to some trouble to go through the mall and get a Lyft ride set up to pick me up on the other side.

men who pull that deserve no explanation. I might be super stubborn when it comes to this but it is insulting to think i not only owe my free time to a scrote but should actually pay to waste my time with him. men like that deserve to be alone if they want to waste a woman’s time.

crappy men have already cost me way too much money in my lifetime, and I will always do my best to make sure no other man uses me for another dime if I can help it.

I'll just pay for my order then block and delete

When it comes to safety, yes, I'll pay my half but I'll def block him afterwards and refuse to extend the date after I receive my card back. Also:

Where did you find this... thing at? Did you met from an app?

I split because I beleive in being as elegant and gracious as possible. There's no other way out of a forced Dutch situation without creating some embarrassing scene or a conflict. Excusing to go to a washroom is not something I like to do - feels like I have something to be guilty of and I'm running away. So I split when asked. Then just as silently, I block and delete.

I’d pay my share only, so if the bill was $50 but mine portion was only $20. I’d pay that. Then block and delete.

don’t hesitate to have the audacity men have if they are being scrotes. If it is safe to do so.

men “forget” their wallets all the time, we are perfectly fine to do the same when appropriate. i don’t trust payment methods being on my phone so they aren’t set up anyway, and I’m the type who carries just enough cash to get out of a jam, and the credit card with the smallest limit just in case I get into a bigger jam like needing car towed or something like that.

I pay for my order and it will be the last time I’ll meet up with him. I will not respond to any comment.

I would probably pause for a quick second, then ask the waiter to bring separate checks. Most all of the time my food is probably less than theirs. If it’s negligible I would just split. I would pay then be done with them, no 2nd date.