Let's say the date was going really well and you two were getting along, goof conversation, chemistry, etc. The bill comes at the end, and he says you two will split it? You had no idea this was coming.
I look at them like I feel really bad for how poor they must be and say “aw” as I open my wallet, pay my share, and bounce away into the sunset, never to see his broke ass again lol
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Jan 14, 2023
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i'm picturing it:- aw... you can't afford it? don't worry, i'll pay for what i consumed and you can pay the rest. poor thing! i hope your situation gets better.
and then the sunset thing you said hahaha
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Jan 14, 2023
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I would add, "aaaww you can't afford it? You are THAT broke huh? OK, I'll pay for what I consumed, you can oay the rest, you poor thing! Literally poor!" Rofl
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Jan 15, 2023
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haha yes, and also:- talk to the staff to see how you can pay for your share? maybe wash the dishes? Mop the floor? huh? can you do that? *to the staff* can he do that?
I would really want to try to just excuse myself to use the restroom but then actually leave the premises. Of course blocking and deleting would be in order as well.
I prefer that option, although I have never done it myself. I fear legal repercussions like the restaurant suing me for not paying if he doesn't pay my share as well.
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Jan 14, 2023
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A restaurant wouldn't even be able to find you let alone sue you. They can't sue you over a meal.
I'd love to do that, but I wonder how one would actually do this. I'm in Europe and I'm pretty sure, they won't just let you walk out of the restaurant. The guy would definitely be able to tell what's going on.
A guy who does that doesn’t like you. Either pay your half or walkout. Then block and delete.
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Jan 14, 2023
I'd say, "Sure, thing! Let me use the restroom first." Then exit the restaurant and haul ass outta there! Rofl. Maybe text a quick, "I don't date gold digging men who use me for my money!" Before blocking.
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Jan 14, 2023
Always take enough to pay for yourself for situations like these. If you're not up for this type of nonsense - a man who isn't upfront who thinks things are "equal" now - I'd just smile, pay your share, go home and block and delete.
I'd stare at him for a moment, just enough to make him feel uncomfortable. Then, I'd shake my head in pity and say, 'oh, so you find it difficult to afford anything.' Then I'd pay for what I ate, go home, block and delete.
If I was feeling particularly insulted, I'd make an excuse to go to the bathroom and leave him with the cheque. Then block and delete as usual!
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Jan 16, 2023
Several years ago, my boyfriend at the time pulled this for the first time after seeing a $22 bill and I incredulously looked at him and said "you invited me, so if $20 is that expensive for you maybe you shouldn't have ordered?" and did absolutely nothing. Sadly I did not break up with him until a few months later...
“Well you invited me to dinner, so thank you for paying for it” is what I’ve said in an annoyed voice before walking out while the guy pays for wasting my time and money for getting there. I’ve done plenty of pick-me, I pay half dating in the past and it only made the men more entitled and trying to get in my house and bed when the “date“ is over. To me trying to split the bill means it’s the time to get away from the guy because he is psycho.
with my lady friends we pay if we invited and its never been a problem. It’s super super tacky to invite someone to a meal and not treat them. Sadly only ladies seem to still have that etiquette and dignity nowadays.
any guy who can’t pay my meal obviously makes much less than me, and it just signals to me that I’m gonna have to take care of him financially if we continue to date. that’s something I think about even after how he didn’t think I was Worth trying to impress, And paying for a meal is the bare minimum -not even impressive in itself. It’s just what a decent person does and knows that they should in the appropriate situation.
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Jan 16, 2023
I would say, “oh, do you need help paying your bill?” Guys hate women “helping” especially with money. Make sure to use the words, do you need help paying! Then watch him squirm. Delicious.
Pay my part, leave. Block, delete.
I look at them like I feel really bad for how poor they must be and say “aw” as I open my wallet, pay my share, and bounce away into the sunset, never to see his broke ass again lol
"Oh, I thought this was a date that you invited me on. I'll pay my share." and then b&d.
I would really want to try to just excuse myself to use the restroom but then actually leave the premises. Of course blocking and deleting would be in order as well.
Pay and leave. Block his number and if you see him on the streets just ignore.
Say that you forgot your credit card, and so it's all on him.
Pay and never talk to that guy again.
A guy who does that doesn’t like you. Either pay your half or walkout. Then block and delete.
I'd say, "Sure, thing! Let me use the restroom first." Then exit the restaurant and haul ass outta there! Rofl. Maybe text a quick, "I don't date gold digging men who use me for my money!" Before blocking.
Always take enough to pay for yourself for situations like these. If you're not up for this type of nonsense - a man who isn't upfront who thinks things are "equal" now - I'd just smile, pay your share, go home and block and delete.
I'd stare at him for a moment, just enough to make him feel uncomfortable. Then, I'd shake my head in pity and say, 'oh, so you find it difficult to afford anything.' Then I'd pay for what I ate, go home, block and delete.
If I was feeling particularly insulted, I'd make an excuse to go to the bathroom and leave him with the cheque. Then block and delete as usual!
Several years ago, my boyfriend at the time pulled this for the first time after seeing a $22 bill and I incredulously looked at him and said "you invited me, so if $20 is that expensive for you maybe you shouldn't have ordered?" and did absolutely nothing. Sadly I did not break up with him until a few months later...
“Well you invited me to dinner, so thank you for paying for it” is what I’ve said in an annoyed voice before walking out while the guy pays for wasting my time and money for getting there. I’ve done plenty of pick-me, I pay half dating in the past and it only made the men more entitled and trying to get in my house and bed when the “date“ is over. To me trying to split the bill means it’s the time to get away from the guy because he is psycho.
with my lady friends we pay if we invited and its never been a problem. It’s super super tacky to invite someone to a meal and not treat them. Sadly only ladies seem to still have that etiquette and dignity nowadays.
any guy who can’t pay my meal obviously makes much less than me, and it just signals to me that I’m gonna have to take care of him financially if we continue to date. that’s something I think about even after how he didn’t think I was Worth trying to impress, And paying for a meal is the bare minimum -not even impressive in itself. It’s just what a decent person does and knows that they should in the appropriate situation.
I would say, “oh, do you need help paying your bill?” Guys hate women “helping” especially with money. Make sure to use the words, do you need help paying! Then watch him squirm. Delicious.
It means either he is a pycho incel pulling this shit on you and there is no hope for him . Would pay my share and get up and leave .
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