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Comrades! We must stand firm!
There is a war going on, and we Queens are losing- nay, surrendering! No more!
For too long, men have insisted that they control the thermostats in our homes and places of work. Their reasoning? We can always put on layers, but they can’t take them off. In many cases, this is utter BS! For example, in the case of my ex, who was 50 lbs. overweight. Was it reasonable for me to have to sleep with 3 comforters on, feeling like an inverted princess and the pea? Weighted down by polyfill and bad decisions? NO! What would be reasonable: for the scrote to drop the pounds, and drop the 22-year-younger girlfriend (poor, naïve young me).
Did you know that in 2016, when Democratic challenger Cynthia Nixon once was preparing to debate New York Governor Andrew Cuomo, her team asked that the event be heated to 76 degrees Fahrenheit? Their reasoning: “Working conditions are notoriously sexist when it comes to room temperature”. Boss move! It’s a shame she didn’t win.
Link: https://www.cnn.com/2019/11/13/health/thermostat-wars-wellness
Research has consistently shown that men control the thermostats in homes and in office spaces. Even in homes where scrotes live rent-free off the hard labor of women, THEY ARE THE ONES TO CONTROL THE COMFORT OF THE (WOMAN’S!) HOME.
I remember in the early stages of dating, before I hit the 3 comforter mark, I found a gorgeous silk nightgown at a thrift shop. It was brand new with tags (poor woman must have never gotten a chance to wear it, because there was a man in the house who kept it too cold). The ladies who worked there said something along those lines… “Aren’t you going to be freezing?” “No,” I said. “My boyfriend and I have made an agreement. He always keeps the thermostat at 70 degrees.” “Get it in writing!” They said, all too knowingly. Slowly, ever so slowly, the house got colder, and I made concessions as he refused to.
Finally, I left him over it. No, not really. In true pickme form, I allowed him to break down each boundary I set until finally leaving with just the tiniest shred of dignity.
But I am a pickme no more! And I, for one, will no longer settle for this kind of f#ckery. And I hope you won’t, either. Thermostat agreements must be firm and non-negotiable. He tries to mess with it, we walk.
Who’s with me?
The issue isn’t even the thermostat or the temperature. It’s the fundamental lack of care and respect. You can tell from someone’s actions whether they care about you or not. If it was freezing cold outside and your partner or roommate heading out while you were asleep, would it make sense for them to turn off heating because they aren’t using it. The same if it was extremely hot and they turned off the air conditioner. “To save money.” It’s just a way their actions and their behaviors show you they don’t really care about you, they just care if you do what they want or make them look good
One of the few boundaries I’ve always maintained is if a man lives with me he understands that I control the thermostat and he is not permitted to question the water or heating cost of all the baths I take.
Women get cold faster than men because men have more muscle mass and thicker skin. That's a scientific fact, not us being babies or making stuff up. Add more men being overweight than women (on average) and you have it. Sorry, I can't stand the same freezing temperatures as you, John. My body is built differently and I am not wearing a 20kg layer of fat to insulate my body.
I am all for being money-savy, using reasonable ways to save and not being wasteful. I don't need to be able to wear just a t-shirt or go barefoot at home in the middle of winter. But if I am already wearing a wool sweater and thick socks and I am still cold while sitting in the living room, the problem isn't me. It's the room being too damn cold. There are ways other than keeping the house at arctic temperatures to save heating costs (e.g. negotiate better contracts, insulate doors and windows, close room doors and keep rooms at different temperatures depending on their use...). Do you really want to risk that your toddler has to wear a snowsuit indoors while playing on the floor in winter?
And anyway: a man who is willing to cut down on essentials his family NEEDS (food, heating, electricity, water, important insurances...) before even thinking about sacrificing stuff like streaming services or other not necessary spending (expensive snacks, alcohol, eating out, expensive hobbies....) or finding an additional way to make money to cover the rising costs is simply not a good provider.
I straight up kept turning it up until he surrendered. But these days, if a man doesn’t take me into consideration, he’s a scrote and can freeze alone in his house fridge.
Also with every frigging office I've worked in was so DAMN COLD jfc. Offices need to stop putting (any job that can be done with a pc) butts in seats and turn off the a/c, smh.
So, yet another reason never to marry fat: "in the case of my ex, who was 50 lbs. overweight."
IMHO below 76F / 26C is not habitable.
Men are made to withstand physical hardships, so they are the ones who should have no say.
I like it cold and cannot take anymore clothes off, because it's obscene. I'd far prefer to have it cold than hot. I can't sleep in the heat and grew up in Texas without an AC. It was 95 degrees in the house at 2 am. So having experienced both things, I'll take the cold anyday.