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I’m planning to visit a Scandinavian country sometime in the next couple years and would like to explore the possibility of dating men from Scandinavia.
I’ve heard rumors about the thriving hookup culture, the coffee/walk dates, and the expectation of 50/50.
My questions:
1. How valid is the 50/50 expectation for people in their 30s and beyond?
2. Are drunken hookups the dominant method of dating?
3. Is it unusual for men to ask women out for dinner on the first date?
I‘d love to hear input from women who have (or know people who have) dated in Sweden, Finland, Norway, Iceland, Denmark, and/or other Scandinavian countries.
I dated a Swedish man for several months. He flew to see me every week or every other week (I live in an Eastern European country), he planned dinner dates and paid for everything. He was cute, fun to talk to and, in the beginning, I was rather smitten. Then one time, we were making out in my car and he just pulled his d*ck out on me. I kinda froze and basically let him rub against me and finish. Afterwards, when I had time to process what happened, it didn't sit well with me. I brought that up with him, and while he did apologize, I didn't feel like he truly gets it. In my experience, the thing with Swedish men (and perhaps other Scandinavians, idk) is that they will say the right things - that they are feminists, that they respect women and that they have been raised with feminist values from day one etc., meanwhile their actions don't always reflect that. And when you bring up this contradiction, they just keep regurgitating the aforementioned talking points in hopes to pacify you. It was quite annoying 😒
Unfortunately it’s bad, like everywhere else
I am not Scandinavian. I hang around with a bunch of them. I should say used to because the whole group had the knack of reaching on time for things at 9:43 AM say. Or, there's a drunk and addictive 40 something father of a boyfriend after midnight roaming naked in the house. Human level respect existed.
However, they are all so misguided due to their upbringing. If I am late, it was never pardoned but I was encouraged to expect middle aged drunk men after midnight. All in all, their 2 brain cells would go in over drive if I even brought up a conversation. Women are most delusional. I hate their obsession with the east. I am Indian and yes you are doing it all wrong. And, no, no points for having tried. I have just gone for a bit of travel and no issues on safety overall. Dating was a near impossible thing though.
It's like everywhere else. 98% scrotes.
1. It's expected but I found that men that really like you will gladly provide. Like everywhere else. I do feel that proper Scandinavian HVM are excellent partners. These men truly respect women, will do the dishes and fix your car.
2. Yes but it depends. There are a lot of party people but also a bunch of hikers and nature minded people. Depends on your circle of friends.
3. Sadly yes. Many scandinavians have social anxiety built into their personality. Sitting face to face with a stranger for over an hour is considered torture for many people. It's normal to become friends first and then date. Many men are lazy when it comes to dating.
Scandi men are chickens strutting around as cats. My pickmeshia conditioning made me susceptible to being rushed into sex through crazy but reasonably logic.
They are trainable but only if they want to be. I have heard tell of ready made scandi hvms but I’m yet to experience one myself.
I’ve trained my nvm to closer to a lvm, and I’m applying consequences to him as Nigels apparently need.
#stilltryingwithalvm #smh
RUN!!!!