I will just mention what helps me. Then I would love to hear everyone's thoughts. For myself what helps me stay grounded in FDS themed values is morality and character. I care a lot about having intergrity and having good character. That has always helped me when I needed to cut a guy off because I've thought things such as "This is what I want and he can't provide that, so I need to cut him off so I can be in line with my values. Or "This is not how I want to be treated so he needs to be cut off because I want to keep my integrity and self respect." I also think a cost analysis has helped as well. When you understand you would be essentially losing pieces of yourself such as integrity, self-respect, self trust and pride in yourself everytime you go against your beliefs and values, it's harder to put up with nonsense. The cost seems way too high. Thoughts?
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I literally wrote down how many men I’ve rejected to help me with resolving my scarcity mindset. Every loser you discharge makes way for a possible winner.
So I get swept up easily when I meet someone I really like or could potentially really like and have tendencies for limerance. The last guy I was "in love" with turned out to have a fiance he just never mentioned until after more than half a year knowing him. Since then I only look at the facts and keep reminding myself of them. If he was interested in me, he will make that clear. He'll strike up conversations with me, ask me out, maybe even just tell me he likes me, etc. If he doesn't do any of those things, I just assume he's not interested. I need to do this to avoid analyzing why he said this, and why he said it that way, or that he's showing me little signs he's interested so surely he must have feelings right?? He's just not that into you