If an attractive man in Italy is being flirty, ask him about his wife. He almost certainly has one but will try to play it off like it’s no big deal and act like YOU are the odd one for having a problem with infidelity
Yeah,.. I think standards around monogamy vary greatly in different cultures. I think the french are similar. they *seem* to be more tolerant of it (ie infidelity).Idk...
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Why are they so flirty there? My sister's friend went to Italy with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend had the worse time because everyone was hitting on her🤣.
Latinamerican men (I know there's many countries in latam but we all have similarities in our cultures) are the first ones to abandon you if you get pregnant. They're selfish and sexist bastards who constantly justify infidelity on men's part + they're useless when it comes to house chores. Most sit down at the table expecting women to serve them while they play domino with their friends or watch the football. Overall they're a bad deal
louder!! It's unbelievable how many times I've told other women here that it's none of their business if someone doesn't want to wear make up or go out showing off their bodies. There's nothing wrong with being voluptuous but it's ridiculous how women bash each other when they're not, how they make fun of small chested women or women who don't have a giant ass or women who don't want to be sexy. How about we:
It's crazy. Hell they even bash women from other latam countries ( like Chile) because to their eyes those women don't put effort into themselves either. It really it's a contest of the biggest pickmeisha over here (most extreme example: women putting drying sh*t into their vaginas so the men can fell the tighness and getting offended when you give medical advice about it.)
This isn't really a widely known 'stereotype' per se, but statistically, most South Korean guys have been to prostitutes or similar sex workers (which are usually trafficked women from SEA) at least once. Most. A lot of them also stealth, secretly record, etc. The secret cameras in public bathrooms are really just the tip of the iceberg.
Source: expat Korean friends who go out of their way to warn every woman about them, I assume because of the rise in popularity of kpop.
Don't know if that counts as a cultural stereotype, but all of my female american friends have warned me about dating american guys because they are trash. Well they are absolutely correct. North american men are trash, sexist and misogynistic.
I loathe leftist suburban g-word USian men. I much prefer rural men who aren’t overly religious (they are more common than people realize). Those are the best: hence I’ve been married to one for such a long time.
I'm totally with you there! As a fellow german myself I can totally relate!
... I don't get the inherent aggressiveness towards men by some users. I mean I'd get it if they were simply not into them but 99% of the time those do actually fancy men so i don't get the whole "men are aholes while we are goddesses" sentiment... Like, everyone in any sex has their flaws and quirks. I'd always recommend to "reflect on what you are actually looking for" and when you truly know what your type is and why, then you'll be able to skip the majority of "scrotes" and simply have good dates with no need for an inherently negative stance towards men
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You should only date a guy that never makes you feel uncomfortable even if he does pay for all the dates. If you suspect he has ulterior motives, block ghost delete.
-Scandinavian men are entitled. They are generally very low effort. You will be asked to come over to Netflix and chill, drink dates and coffee dates. They won't pay for any of that, but expect you to be gratefull for them to share their valuable time with you.
- Speaking of entitlement: Scandinavians are also exceptionalists, like in the USA. We think that our system is the best, our politics, our nature, our food, our people, and so on. A lot of men show signs of this thinking, and will act as they are superior to you in any way. Never let a scandinavian man feel superior to you!
- One night stands are common in Scandinavia. A scandinavian man can expect you to have sex with him on the first date. But it is highly uncommon you will get real commitement out of a such encounter
- Scandinavians in general are very lonely people. I feel that their fondness of ONS comes from their need of intimacy. But they lack a sense of committement. I feel that men here are VERY afraid of real committement and will RUN without ever looking back, at the mere thought of having to commit. I have countless times been ghosted by guys who just "supposed" I wanted to have something with them (I didn't). It has happened to a lot of my friends too.
- Scandinavian men WILL ghost you. People here in general are very afraid of confrontation.
- Scandinavian men expect you to act as their equal and be their "buddy". We are socialized here to be "the same" "equals" and whatnot. They will never hold a door open for you, or walk you to the bus (I am talking about minimun courtesy here). But they will anyways feel emasculated if you are an empowered woman. Many men here burst and cry stating that equality has gone too far and "females" have too many privileges here, so women have nothing to complain about (But we have plenty of reasons to complain...)
Thank you for this info!! If there any specific place you would recommend moving to??? How to deal with these men that have attachment issues and not be used for ONS?
In my personal experience: same rules apply here as in other countries. That means: vetting vetting vetting. Don't chase, don't go 50/50 and don't have sex before comittement.
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One of the big cities and not too far up north. No sun in the winter.
Turkish/Arab men lovebomb multiple non-muslim women for sex by being romantic. They have a fetish for blond fair-skinned foreign women but also don't respect them because they are not Muslim. I have lived in the Middle East and they all think European and American women are whores with no self-respect and will exploit, traffic, and abuse them.
Women being fragile and weak is their mindset, so they will "protect" you as long as it makes them feel like a man. They are OBSESSED with babies and are good fathers, but serial cheaters (and yes, most wives know as long as he will never leave his family it's OK). But leaving his family is a huge shame and all relatives and religions will come down on him, so they avoid it by having (foreign) side pieces or multiple (Muslim)wives or both.
im not blonde so I can’t speak to the fetish thing but I’ve heard that one before.
in my early 20s I dated a muslim Turkish man and it’s very true how they love bomb and just want you because you’re a western woman so you must be a whore. for a while I just thought it was him but I’ve had friends that had similar issues
I despise all of this esp as an American woman who is widowed (single but not available) and who is childfree by choice. I can’t tell you the amount of times some Middle Eastern or African scrote has told me “there’s still time” to have a baby! Motherfucker I am over a decade post-menopausal! This is not how basic biology works! I’ve told them this. Just so stupid and ignorant. I have zero respect, 100% contempt for all this behavior.
They are absolutely spoiled by their family and don't respect their mothers or any women. They also have oedipus complex and their idea of love is Massimo/Laura from 365 days. Extremely controlling and temperamental.
I heard same can be said for Greek and Italian men but Arabs are religion-focused.
they are all pretty bad in their unique ways, interesting topic though. i have met scrotes from all kinds of places and it is interesting to me that some use their culture to justify thinking of women as lesser, and some (mostly white privileged men from the u.s.) who claim to have progressive views on womens rights. Biggest hypocrites ever.
they still think they didn’t get a job cause some woman or minority here got it, or think if we want equal rights then we better pay our half of the date somehow like with money or sex or both.
I really wish someone could do the opposite, and name a country or culture that cherishes women and respects them. Are there any?
The stereotypical entitlement/mamma's boy take care of me attitude associated with Arab and Indian men has proven true for me EVERY SINGLE TIME.I no longer date men of those ethnicities -everything is negotiable to them and they are the pushiest men I've ever met and disappointing when you bother to agree engaging with them
I hate the negotiation online in chat. Take my NO and fuck off to hell and die! Cannot stand pushiness. It’s like the most bratty, entitled middle school kid.
I've lived and worked all over the world, as I was in the Army. At their core, men are the same everywhere you go. Some cultures are a little more hidden and more quiet about their misogyny, but it's there. Some places are safer than others, but you can be raped and killed anywhere you go. You take your chances engaging with any male.
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I had the unfortunate pleasure of renting a room in a 6 bedroom house with 5 other Indian and Arab men in Silicon Valley, CA. All were techs nerds, and here I am the random American girl in healthcare. But they were all misogynistic towards me in their owns ways. Believing they were smarter than me because I was a women. All 5 of them were rude to me, belittled me in some form or fashion. They called me a liar because I told them I'm from (blank city), but I then talked about my travels. And they were accusing me of lying about where I'm from because I was talking about living in different cities during my travels. I had to show them my driversl license to prove I wasn't lying, because they couldn't comprehend a woman traveling alone. It was ridiculous.
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Oh is that what it was? I thought it was just the culture. I didn't know it was their degree as well. Man, I spent 6 months locked in my room trying to avoid those 5 fucks. I couldn't wait to move.
as a woman in STEM, this is, unfortunately, painfully correct. Avoid non-white , culturally diverse men in STEM, it's the absolute worst. No matter what they just dismiss you, invalidate your opinions or imply youre stupid
Yeah, and like any place with tourism the men are NOT embarressed to find foreign women to provide for them. Sadly, I see in Jamaica that men take a lot of pride in fathering children that they do not provide for…
This is true for most West Indian men too, not just the English speaking West Indians. Hispanic West Indians are identical too: Cuban, Dominican and Puerto Rican men are 💯 like this too.
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Egyptian men are toxic af and they love their “homies” more than they love their girlfriends.
I remember thinking it was really odd that most UAE airlines will include transportation to your hotel with the price of the ticket. Until i realized that that’s the bare minimum to avoid getting trafficked.
I remember reading that most hotels in the area that serve foreigners won't give rooms to single men for that reason. Local men would book hotel rooms to harass and assault the visiting women. Imagine how bad it had to be for the hotels to ban them.
That Italian men are overdramatic and put on a romantic show for you but drop you as soon as you're inconvenient in some way. Also the pathos seems fun at first but gets on your nerves quickly. I'm from Germany and I can say most stereotypes regarding German men do apply – many are introverted / socially
awkward or friendly but emotionally unavailable, obsessed with work and rather stingy. The best men I've met had some other nationality mixed in. German + Eastern European has been a good combo in my experience, but I'm biased since that's what my and my partner's family are lol
It's no wonder so many German women lust after Southern European men, because they seem more passionate, fun and romantic. But of course, that's another can of worms, because it's just different social norms and not necessarily genuine. The baseline level of friendliness might be higher but it doesn't really mean anything more than that, and it's hard not to read too much into it when you're from a nation that's pretty closed off by default. I feel many men from countries with a reputation for being "passionate" do exploit that. At least when you're with a German (man or woman), generally speaking you can be sure they really like you when they act like it. 🤣 But as I said, Germans with immigrant parents might be one of the best compromises, because those people often have adopted higher levels of hospitality and friendliness from their families.
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Italian men are also mama's boys. Still suckling mama's teet,, till the next female can take her place. IF she can!
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-Korean men make good boyfriends, but terrible husbands
-Korean men are horrible with showing emotion (there are a few reasons for this, but most refuse to even try to work through it or improve)
-Most are really bad at sex and selfish in bed (coming from past experience and gossip with my Korean girlfriends)
-When dating foreign women, most will take an unattractive or white woman over a beautiful WOC simply because she's white
-Most see expat women as easy, and expect sex on the first date. The amount of times I've been nearly led down dark alleys and steered to love motels on hour 1-3 of a date is outrageous
-Most men cheat while dating and in marriage. Something like 70% (based on a study here)
-Absent and emotionally unavailable fathers once children hit 10+
I have a super long list, but I don't feel like typing up each and every one, lol.
I've been living in SK for 7 years. Most of my Korean friends married to native men are miserable. The expats I know that are married to Korean men are too giddy at "nabbing" a Korean man to realize how toxic, low effort, ugly, or garbage their husbands are.
This is coming from someone currently dating and vetting a Korean man (who has lived abroad and doesn't hold most of the misogynistic, small-minded, and downright disgusting beliefs a lot of men here grow up learning).
Re: your point about seeing foreign women as easy at "nearly led down dark alleys" during a first date gave me an uncomfortable flashback. Moroccan men will do this too. Admittedly, I only have a sample size of one, but beware.
My husband is from China and he wants kids REAL BAD. It's obvious that he would consider himself to be a failure in life if he doesn't have bio kids. Also the concept of "face" is 100% real. He doesn't care much what goes on in the house as long as it's private, but he goes to ridiculous lengths to present a certain image in public. He's also not patriotic towards China at all, in fact I know he kind of hates it, but he will never say it out loud and makes patriotic noises occasionally. A female Chinese friend of mine put it perfectly, he only loves China with his mouth 😂😂 Also he thinks pot is as bad as crack lol.
"Mama's boy" is a perfect description. I've met a few of her Indian "boyfriends" and they're perfectly presentable, well groomed, good manners, and charming etc but they have zero spine. When their moms eventually call them home they don't even hesitate to go running home, then call up my friend with some sob story about how they were forced and had no choice blah blah and they don't really want a the nice virgin girl his mom picked, and life is so unfair waah but he'll come back ASAP with that purse she liked (and then he ghosts lol). I feel so sorry for the poor girls who have no clue what a real fuckboy she's trapped with.
The stereotype about developed nation's men treating women from third world countries like crap is VERY true. My country is a sexual torism heaven and the number of men from America/Europe/ISrael/ middle east,etc (mention those because the majority come from there, but there are from other places too)... that come here looking for children ( like 12-13 years old or even younger) to r*pe is through the roof. They also look for adult prostitutes they can mistreat and mail order brides off course.
I wish women from those place would come here and watch how "their" men behave when their societies are not looking. Very eye opening experience I bet.
as someone who dated military, they are trained not to see people as people. They regularly kill and rape women in and outside the military and it gets covered.
they are so selfish and have zero self-control due to severe trauma and PTSD. Most are cheaters with no morality.
In US they don't get help through VA and end up crippled mentally and physically, a lot end up in suicide. Military service is the only way for low income people to get benefits and degrees. They are bottom-barrel men.
AVOID tying yourself down to a sinking rock or a military man.
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If an attractive man in Italy is being flirty, ask him about his wife. He almost certainly has one but will try to play it off like it’s no big deal and act like YOU are the odd one for having a problem with infidelity
Latinamerican men (I know there's many countries in latam but we all have similarities in our cultures) are the first ones to abandon you if you get pregnant. They're selfish and sexist bastards who constantly justify infidelity on men's part + they're useless when it comes to house chores. Most sit down at the table expecting women to serve them while they play domino with their friends or watch the football. Overall they're a bad deal
This isn't really a widely known 'stereotype' per se, but statistically, most South Korean guys have been to prostitutes or similar sex workers (which are usually trafficked women from SEA) at least once. Most. A lot of them also stealth, secretly record, etc. The secret cameras in public bathrooms are really just the tip of the iceberg.
Source: expat Korean friends who go out of their way to warn every woman about them, I assume because of the rise in popularity of kpop.
Don't know if that counts as a cultural stereotype, but all of my female american friends have warned me about dating american guys because they are trash. Well they are absolutely correct. North american men are trash, sexist and misogynistic.
-Scandinavian men are entitled. They are generally very low effort. You will be asked to come over to Netflix and chill, drink dates and coffee dates. They won't pay for any of that, but expect you to be gratefull for them to share their valuable time with you.
- Speaking of entitlement: Scandinavians are also exceptionalists, like in the USA. We think that our system is the best, our politics, our nature, our food, our people, and so on. A lot of men show signs of this thinking, and will act as they are superior to you in any way. Never let a scandinavian man feel superior to you!
- One night stands are common in Scandinavia. A scandinavian man can expect you to have sex with him on the first date. But it is highly uncommon you will get real commitement out of a such encounter
- Scandinavians in general are very lonely people. I feel that their fondness of ONS comes from their need of intimacy. But they lack a sense of committement. I feel that men here are VERY afraid of real committement and will RUN without ever looking back, at the mere thought of having to commit. I have countless times been ghosted by guys who just "supposed" I wanted to have something with them (I didn't). It has happened to a lot of my friends too.
- Scandinavian men WILL ghost you. People here in general are very afraid of confrontation.
- Scandinavian men expect you to act as their equal and be their "buddy". We are socialized here to be "the same" "equals" and whatnot. They will never hold a door open for you, or walk you to the bus (I am talking about minimun courtesy here). But they will anyways feel emasculated if you are an empowered woman. Many men here burst and cry stating that equality has gone too far and "females" have too many privileges here, so women have nothing to complain about (But we have plenty of reasons to complain...)
Turkish/Arab men lovebomb multiple non-muslim women for sex by being romantic. They have a fetish for blond fair-skinned foreign women but also don't respect them because they are not Muslim. I have lived in the Middle East and they all think European and American women are whores with no self-respect and will exploit, traffic, and abuse them.
Women being fragile and weak is their mindset, so they will "protect" you as long as it makes them feel like a man. They are OBSESSED with babies and are good fathers, but serial cheaters (and yes, most wives know as long as he will never leave his family it's OK). But leaving his family is a huge shame and all relatives and religions will come down on him, so they avoid it by having (foreign) side pieces or multiple (Muslim)wives or both.
they are all pretty bad in their unique ways, interesting topic though. i have met scrotes from all kinds of places and it is interesting to me that some use their culture to justify thinking of women as lesser, and some (mostly white privileged men from the u.s.) who claim to have progressive views on womens rights. Biggest hypocrites ever.
they still think they didn’t get a job cause some woman or minority here got it, or think if we want equal rights then we better pay our half of the date somehow like with money or sex or both.
I really wish someone could do the opposite, and name a country or culture that cherishes women and respects them. Are there any?
So what I'm getting from this thread is that most men are the same kind of trash everywhere, but seasoned slightly differently from country to country
The stereotypical entitlement/mamma's boy take care of me attitude associated with Arab and Indian men has proven true for me EVERY SINGLE TIME. I no longer date men of those ethnicities -everything is negotiable to them and they are the pushiest men I've ever met and disappointing when you bother to agree engaging with them
That Arab men are indeed misogynistic controlling over women.
I've lived and worked all over the world, as I was in the Army. At their core, men are the same everywhere you go. Some cultures are a little more hidden and more quiet about their misogyny, but it's there. Some places are safer than others, but you can be raped and killed anywhere you go. You take your chances engaging with any male.
I had the unfortunate pleasure of renting a room in a 6 bedroom house with 5 other Indian and Arab men in Silicon Valley, CA. All were techs nerds, and here I am the random American girl in healthcare. But they were all misogynistic towards me in their owns ways. Believing they were smarter than me because I was a women. All 5 of them were rude to me, belittled me in some form or fashion. They called me a liar because I told them I'm from (blank city), but I then talked about my travels. And they were accusing me of lying about where I'm from because I was talking about living in different cities during my travels. I had to show them my driversl license to prove I wasn't lying, because they couldn't comprehend a woman traveling alone. It was ridiculous.
jamaican men are controlling whores
Egyptian men are toxic af and they love their “homies” more than they love their girlfriends.
That Italian men are overdramatic and put on a romantic show for you but drop you as soon as you're inconvenient in some way. Also the pathos seems fun at first but gets on your nerves quickly. I'm from Germany and I can say most stereotypes regarding German men do apply – many are introverted / socially
awkward or friendly but emotionally unavailable, obsessed with work and rather stingy. The best men I've met had some other nationality mixed in. German + Eastern European has been a good combo in my experience, but I'm biased since that's what my and my partner's family are lol
-Korean men make good boyfriends, but terrible husbands
-Korean men are horrible with showing emotion (there are a few reasons for this, but most refuse to even try to work through it or improve)
-Most are really bad at sex and selfish in bed (coming from past experience and gossip with my Korean girlfriends)
-When dating foreign women, most will take an unattractive or white woman over a beautiful WOC simply because she's white
-Most see expat women as easy, and expect sex on the first date. The amount of times I've been nearly led down dark alleys and steered to love motels on hour 1-3 of a date is outrageous
-Most men cheat while dating and in marriage. Something like 70% (based on a study here)
-Absent and emotionally unavailable fathers once children hit 10+
I have a super long list, but I don't feel like typing up each and every one, lol.
I've been living in SK for 7 years. Most of my Korean friends married to native men are miserable. The expats I know that are married to Korean men are too giddy at "nabbing" a Korean man to realize how toxic, low effort, ugly, or garbage their husbands are.
This is coming from someone currently dating and vetting a Korean man (who has lived abroad and doesn't hold most of the misogynistic, small-minded, and downright disgusting beliefs a lot of men here grow up learning).
My husband is from China and he wants kids REAL BAD. It's obvious that he would consider himself to be a failure in life if he doesn't have bio kids. Also the concept of "face" is 100% real. He doesn't care much what goes on in the house as long as it's private, but he goes to ridiculous lengths to present a certain image in public. He's also not patriotic towards China at all, in fact I know he kind of hates it, but he will never say it out loud and makes patriotic noises occasionally. A female Chinese friend of mine put it perfectly, he only loves China with his mouth 😂😂 Also he thinks pot is as bad as crack lol.
The stereotype about developed nation's men treating women from third world countries like crap is VERY true. My country is a sexual torism heaven and the number of men from America/Europe/ISrael/ middle east,etc (mention those because the majority come from there, but there are from other places too)... that come here looking for children ( like 12-13 years old or even younger) to r*pe is through the roof. They also look for adult prostitutes they can mistreat and mail order brides off course.
I wish women from those place would come here and watch how "their" men behave when their societies are not looking. Very eye opening experience I bet.
Both Latino men I dated - one Puerto Rican, one Dominican - were mama's boys, misogynists, sexist, racist, and noncommittal.
And one of them did leave his ex-wife after she gave birth to their son 😐
This whole thread has been so enlightening