Was there ever a time a guy lost interest in you because there WASN’T someone else?

If I were you, I would just forget about it and move on. If he rejected you then he rejected you. Next. There's no point in wasting your mental energy on obsessing over why some random guy did whatever. He's not important.

I call that a feint. It’s manipulative by design and it’s intended to make you chase him. Walk away, best way to piss him off.

Do you know for sure there was another woman on his radar? If he’s giving you whiplash with his indecision and making digs I think you block, delete and set yourself free without a backwards glance. OR just stop responding and watch the show unfold. Your silence will pique his interest and by the time he rocks up with a boring text to gauge where you’re at you’ll eye roll him into next week.

He's trying to keep you unbalanced so you'll pickme dance. Forget that douchebag. I had a guy do this to me. He chased me for months, then I finally agreed to date him. After a while he asked me to be "his girl" (freaking vague) and I agreed. The NEXT DAY he matched with MY BOSS on OLD and started throwing it in my face. He said he didn't know we were "exclusive", and that's not what he meant by his "girl". I was too naive back then to immediately back out, so I left the ball in his court, saying it was up to him to make a decision. What ensued was a sh!t ton of drama at work and with him. He ended up choosing me (the sparkly turd was mine!), I put in my two weeks and my boss fired me before I could finish them...

All that for what turned out to be the biggest scrote douche in the world. The worst kind, too, because he pretended so hard to be HV. He called himself a "Ned Flanders Type", was a churchgoer, didn't swear, dressed in nice sweaters and dress pants. But he was LV as they come.

Ditch these guys immediately! They will only cause chaos in your life.

Always see an LVM removing himself from your life as a blessing. You didn't do anything to him. Men are just batshit insane for the most part.

sometimes people are just confused. they think they want one thing, they invest, then they realise they don't want it anymore...

there are many possibilities for his lack of interest out of the blue. he might have found out you're FDS aligned. he might have met someone else. maybe he made a move at you and other women at the same time and one of them seemed more likely to give him what he wants. maybe he just wanted to make you interested for his ego. perhaps he's depressed, or married, or dead.

the thing is: trying to understand the other person's motives is useless. unless you can be them and experience their toughts and feelings, you'll never really know what happened. the best thing you can do is focus on yourself and what you want. do you want someone who apparently doesn't want you? i think not. so no need to get attatched to the speculations.

my story is this: i once got ghosted after telling the guy i didn't remove my body hair. judge me all you want. i HATE shaving/waxing and i used to hate my body hair. now i love it. it's a part of me and my journey to becoming a woman with good self esteem and confidence. he and i had many things in common and i could totally see us in a serious relationship. but he's an idiot who can't handle my natural beauty - his loss.

Those men want to end things with you because they spotted someone better but they don’t want to seem like an asshole to his peers, so they lead you on and then drop you like a brick and then they are hot and cold until you got the hint and end things with them so that he can put the blame on you for being the one who ended contact and he has nothing to be held accountable for. I’ve been there and staying or giving him chances won’t make him snap out of his asshole hibernation and be good to you. As soon as disrespect is serves or hes displaying behaviour you are not used to then block and move on.

“he’s dropping hints that he’s interested in someone else.” … “he’s making digs at me at the same time.” So this is textbook cheating male behavior - the duper’s delight he gets from dropping hints on you while simultaneously devaluing you to your face. Block & delete with extreme prejudice.

I think you block and delete at the first and smallest sign of disrespect.

No, I've never even heard of, let alone experienced, a man "losing interest" where it didn't involve another women or man. Men don't leave without a new pocket to stick their dicks in. That's why men will stay with a woman for 10 years and never dump her. He HAS to have another sexual outlet.

Yep! They just weren’t feeling it.