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YO....
I'm sorry everyone; I was really hoping not to have to do yet another update on this personal saga. It's been a few weeks since the trip and since then I have been trying to move on from this and have been meeting other people and seeing a new counselor.
Well, this morning she sent me this "cheerful" & enlightening email:
"Hey [Sea Gypsy],
So I’m emailing you because I noticed that you were avoiding my messages again on WhatsApp like you were doing before. I noticed that you didn’t want me to see that you had read them so I figured that I would just email you so that I won’t know when you read this.
Anyways girl I really need to get the pictures from you. If you were not gonna give them to me you should have just been courteous enough to let me know to use my own phone. But I’m gonna be honest with you, what you’re doing is extremely wrong because I have been an incredible amazing friend to you since I met you in the short time that we’ve known each other. Actually, I’m confident that you have never met anyone else who has been so kind to you. But I’m gonna be honest you can’t take advantage of someone who has treated you so nice.
I even worked really hard to get [future trip] tickets for us and you cannot even send me the 60 or 70 pictures that you took on your phone. Well honestly I really want us to go to [future trip] because I got the tickets, but I can’t do the planning and I can’t start thinking about that until you get the pictures to me. Also I have about 80 pictures of you and I as well on my waterproof camera but again I can’t give them to you until I get the pictures from you.
It definitely doesn’t take long to send pictures. I don’t need anything other than all the ones you took of me and us together. That should take less than five minutes just like it did when you uploaded the [previous trip] pictures. Is there a reason you don’t want to get me the pictures? Because it’s definitely not that difficult.
I’m happy to pay you for them but you need to actually touch base with me and not avoid me on WhatsApp or avoid my text Messages.
Anyways girl please go ahead and get me the pictures then that way you don’t have to talk to me anymore. And like I said once you get me the pictures then I can send you the ones from snorkeling and all of that. But I have been a really really really good friend to you and you’re taking advantage of that. So you really need to think about how you’re treating someone who has been nothing but kind to you.
Again I’m happy to pay for the Pictures. So you need to get in touch with me so that you can tell me how much you want for them. As far as [future trip] goes, you’re gonna have to show and prove that you can be a better friend before I can start making the plans. But honestly if I were you you’re getting a free trip to [future trip] and you’re getting everything for free. And I know that’s what you want. So I would not let something like sending a few pictures get in the way of that."
She is motherfcking evil holy shit!!!
"I have been an incredible amazing friend to you since I met you in the short time that we’ve known each other. Actually, I’m confident that you have never met anyone else who has been so kind to you."
"you’re gonna have to show and prove that you can be a better friend before I can start making the plans. But honestly if I were you you’re getting a free trip to [future trip] and you’re getting everything for free. And I know that’s what you want."
Yep, she's toxic. She sounds narcisstic here: full of her own importance, denigrating you, and projecting like hell. Block her, you don't need to expose yourself to this tripe.
This entire email was one narcissist ramble. Thanks for the update, sis! Block her LV ass, what an absolute disaster she is.
Block her
The amount of times she has to emphasize she’s been SUUCHH a Kind and amazing friend is alarming. she’s just trying to convince herself to avoid accountability. Yikes just block
She wants those photos so goddamn bad. Lol. I love how she is trying to blackmail you with a free trip and the pics she has of you. Don’t send her shit. Never speak to her again. That's how you dead a narcissist.
I've never seen/heard a woman talk like that to another woman. It sounds like grooming. You dodged a bullet there and I'm glad you got back from your trip in one piece.
Sounds like a selfish crazy narcissist. Definitely cut her out completely, if she has pictures she didn’t send you and you have pictures you didn’t send her then I would block and delete her everywhere. If she emails you again and doesn’t stop just say: stop harassing me and any further contact with me, I will report you to the police.
Why does she need those photos so bad for? To post them on Instagram🤣?
I appreciate your posts even though they give me the heebie jeebies; she sounds like my former roommate. A female narcissist pickme. She even travels quite a bit and has been to dozens of countries. She sounds interesting but she is insufferable (manipulative and underhanded as fuck) if you have to deal with her on a day to day basis. Your former friend wouldn't happen to be a punk/goth, would she? 😅
Grooooooss. Reminds me of the ‘ol scrote scramble. Walls and walls of manipulative vomit. Resist the urge to reply and block. Nothing gets them angrier than the silence of the void anyway.
At this point, maybe just send the pictures and block & delete? Just saying you might want to send them so you won't have to deal with her again. She sounds like the kind of person who would hunt you down and drag your name through the mud otherwise. Protecting yourself is more important than getting the satisfaction of having the upper hand in this case
[Update] she has like 1000+ email addresses or something. Even though I blocked like 2 of her addresses, she contacted me again saying she hopes we can stay friends. I knew she was going to do this. I knew she would try to appeal to my kind-hearted side. This might make me a bad person but I've gone through so much in my life to the point where i think I'm honestly a cold hearted person; I liked blocking her. I liked blocking my ex in the end. There was a reason why I liked/loved them in the first place and that's still there, but I care more about the fact that I was angry/hurt by them in the 1sr place. Ughhhh whatever....
[Update 2] Well, I ended up telling my counselor about the whole thing, but after showing her the email, I got the sense that she is not taking it as seriously as I hoped. She said "there's two sides to every story". I am frustrated.