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I started talking to a guy and I believe we are just friends. There seems like there was some light flirting but I was definitely a bit aloof to it, partially because I'm honestly really bad at flirting with men. I operate under the idea that most men typically do not care to talk to women unless they find them attractive, and this is a man that I definitely believe would not be speaking to me if he didn't find me attractive. During one of our conversations I felt like he may have been trying to gauge if I would send nudes but I played aloof and basically shot it down. Recently he's brought up some conversations he's been having with other women and then just today casually mentioned he was thinking about sending some other woman a nude. I don't need to be told this is obviously LV behavior but I guess I'm just wondering: why?
Another friend I asked said that if he just sees me as a friend then like, maybe he's just talking about sex/dating like anyone might do with a friend. But personally when it comes to my friendships with males I prefer to avoid that topic unless there's a good reason they need advice from a female lens. Even when it comes to girlfriends I only talk about sex stuff to women I'm close to or have known for awhile. I've only known this guy for about a month or two. Does he really just see me as "one of the guys" or is he trying to triangulate/make me feel jealous? Idk, maybe it doesn't matter that much since I'm probably going to just stop talking to this guy now but like I said I'm just curious about the possible reasoning behind this.
I think you’re overthinking this in the sense that this is not sophisticated strategy on his part. Like you already said the “why” isn’t important, but my hunch is he’s intimidated by you, and wants you to chase him or trigger jealous/mate guarding behavior on your part to affirm his self esteem.
Never give a guy the benefit of the doubt. They always know what they're doing. He's already shown extremely LV behavior, so why would you think otherwise? Even if they see you as "one of the guys" sex is never off the table in their minds. Men will use women's bodies for sex if they're 90+, in a coma, or dead.
It’s called “the dread game” and it’s a tactic used to make you feel like you have to chase him. You’re supposed to feel fear that he’s speaking to someone else. Honestly, I would just cut off. They play this game instead of just asking if you’re interested in them. He’s a child. Walk away without explanation and that will cut him.
Triangulating any woman with another woman generally tends to increase male power. Power and control is usually his motivation.
I would never tell my friends what photos I want to send and can’t imagine anyone else doing so if not to get a reaction out of them.