To fake or not fake orgasm? Such is the question.... How about we look at this differently.

One topic I've seen sometimes that circulates frequently on the internet is lying about orgasms, I've seen how people tend to take a binary viewpoint about this specific issue. People either recommend to lie to preserve the male ego and spare oneself the sex pains (we all know when a man takes too long it becomes painful), or recommend to never lie, and expose oneself to hurt male egos (that can be explosive, let's agree).

In my honest opinion, this is actually a fake dilemma. The FDS solution, I think is quite simple, suffices to take one step back: How about using this as a vetting opportunity, instead of deciding whether to fake or not? The result will be determining.

If ever the moment comes where one simply doesn't feels the Big Mr.O coming, thinks they have to fake in order to get it over with...

I think it would be a good idea to tell the man to stop, and to cuddle. Yeah, simple as that. "Babe it won't happen today, let's stop now, some days are like that, let's cuddle". See how he reacts: some men react poorly to a lack of an lady orgasm (which reinforces his ego as a sex god). Some men will understand and take you for your words.

Let's compare two possible scenarios to this:

Brad, our LVM, he went on all those years, "orgasming" all those ladies, he thinks of himself as a SeXxX gOd, his fingers are insured for one million dollars. Then he stumbles upon a lady that refuses to reinforce his ego, omfg, he's bruised, he's fucking hurt, this lady must be lying, or this lady must be broken. All the other ladies orgasmed without any issue, yet SHE doesn't? He blames the lady. Obviously, because his ego is so fucking massive he can't have the humility of listening to his partner. He may sulk her the next day, or guilt-trip her, or be generally nasty. You know what to do with him 🚮

Meanwhile, Erik, our HVM, he's surprised his lady isn't coming, but he understands the lady is a human, and humans have trickicacies and can be particular sometimes. He doesn't sweats it, the lady wants a cuddle, hell yea let's do it! Next time, he asks if such thing feels good and listens to feedback. He immediately enacts it because his ego ain't so fucking big, he knows there's always place to become better.

There's a huge difference: big ego versus humility.

Generally you can sense really well whether it's one or the other. If you're not sure, just wait and see. Let them be themselves and they'll tell about themselves more than you pushing them and probing.

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Two additional notes which I think are incredibly important, related to orgasms:

1. Always make sure YOU come before HIM. He can't penetrate UNLESS you've orgasmed, or feel incredibly close to. It ensures that you're not sexually neglected, and it ensures you have a partner that steps it up and learns how to please YOU.

2. If he is NOT doing ANY effort to make you cum, or have pleasure at least, consider this a red flag. Should seem obvious, but there's a critically high amount of pickmes that think it is fine to be sexually neglected.