Tips on not becoming emotionally attached?

- Don’t save his number

- Don’t fantasize about your future with him

- Don‘t spend every day together, don’t text/talk on the phone all day everyday when you’re not together

- Tbh I don’t really talk about him with friends/family until we’re official status

avoid fantasizing anything with him (from texting to sex to spending your life with him) because it's like the brain doesn't know the difference between real memories and just imagination. most of my attatchment usually comes from my own imagination.

observe his behaviour and attitudes more than his words.

remember most men are trash and HVM are rare. so why engage so much? better to focus on yourself.

In addition to everything that’s already been recommended, have a scrotation! Even if you’re dating at least two guys, it helps avoid getting overly attached if you’re dating just the one.

Edit to add: this is a bit TMI, sorry, but in all seriousness, this is important.

Masturbate BEFORE going on a date with a man. I cannot stress this enough. I have a high libido and I've learned to radically accept this instead of shaming myself. I've learned to accept that my brain goes into full lizard mode when I am around a hot fit man (my type). Rubbing one out beforehand releases my tension, relieves my horniness, and focuses me so that I can go into the date clear-headed and ready to ruthlessly vet.

If you're going in horny, your hormones will cloud your judgement because the unfortunate reality of our biology is that our body wants to be impregnated by an ideal candidate for mateship (depending on your age obvs, this is unlikely to apply to post-menopausal women. But age doesn't matter tbh, masturbation clears your head regardless of your age). Manipulate the fuck out of those hormones so they don't interfere with your decision making capabilities.

-Don’t build intimacy over the phone -Spend more time with friends -Dedicate more time to hobbies & play

The easiest way to avoid becoming attached to someone new is to give him little of your time. See him maybe once a week, and spend the rest of your free time cultivating friendships and hobbies, caring for yourself, and continuing to accept dates from other suitors. Similarly, be very slow and reserved in developing a physical connection. As soon as you start having sex with a man, it’s more difficult (although of course should still be done) to vet ruthlessly. The FDS rule of thumb is wait until you’ve been in a committed relationship for 3 months to have sex. The longer you wait to develop an emotional attachment, the clearer your judgment and intuition about whether a man is worthy of you.

Find his faults

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