Tips for reducing sex drive?

I also used to have an uncontrollable sex drive, and it's still relatively high. I remember going on that googling journey! I'm also like you where I can orgasm many, many times with a man (wowww 30-50 though, you got me beat lol I am impressed) but as you said, it's a pain in the ass to keep it up by yourself. It really is so freaking time consuming and honestly just makes me feel like an animalistic blob.

The only thing I found to help with this is daily and rigorous exercise. I run myself ragged with cardio 4 days a week, sometimes lift weights, and do fitness classes twice a week. That's the only thing I've found that helps.... I had to stop for 2 weeks cause of a sprained ankle and I was right back to being horny constantly. I nearly made some very bad decisions. But I'm back to finding LVM gross and useless and wouldn't touch them with a 10 ft pole so it works for me! Sorry, I will let you know if I find something else that works. :( I kind of wanna try the spearmint tea though, since it's still a hassle for me to masturbate every day ugh. Thanks for mentioning it!!

I channel my excessive sexual energy into exercise. Lots and lots of exercise in attempt to calm my unyielding libido. Doesn’t help when I see smoking hot adonis’ working out, but oh well, it’s a nice sight to think about later 🤤

First off I am really jealous that you can get vaginal orgasms. Medications such as birth control and anti depressants are notorious for lowering sex drive. Do not take them solely for this reason obviously, only suggesting if you found you have issues with anxiety, depression or OCD anyway. This is probably obvious but avoid alcohol and any other type of depressant. Also invest in sex toys to give yourself vaginal orgasms more quickly so it takes less time and effort, if you dont already. Dont know about any foods or teas that could reduce it.

If it were me I’d work on masturbation tools and techniques rather than try to diminish a healthy sex drive

I think you should make the time to masturbate- if clit isn't doing it then make the time and do the work of what it takes vaginally. Consider trying a new toy or even a more sex machine so it's less work. I get busy with my job and side hustle too and when I get horny I need to stop and make the time - otherwise my old pickme thoughts start resurfacing.

What works for me to lower my sex drive is to take myself out shopping and doing errands. Stop in a store like Walmart and just people watch a little- you'll be disgusted at the amount of lvms that look and smell homeless when they aren't.

There's a lot of horror stories even in the media look at the movie she devil - the husband treats her awfully and then cheats. Fds has some good scrote horror stories on the podcast and used to have male depravity/dead bedroom type of posts. These always turned me off so much.

There was some Facebook groups about not dating guys that showed screenshots from OLD sites and fds also has some of these type of posts that show the awful bios and the awful messages they send. It always turns me off.

I don't want kids at all and just being out in public hearing a screaming kid also turns me way off.

Whatever turns you off - know it - and imagine being with a man like that and I'm instantly not feeling sexual.

Instead of reducing your sex drive, have some "me time" with a vibrator.

If you require vaginal orgasms: I think many bullet vibrators can be inserted vaginally, theres endless vibrating dildos you can insert, there's also some thrusting, vibrating dildos that go viral sometimes.

Someone else mentioned a sex machine. Remember the gail dines episode where we got the term "men are life support systems for their penises"? Well, the machine can be the life support system and the dildo attached to it can be the penis. In a way, that's a whole man. Especially the 50:50 ones.

Men ≠ sexual pleasure

When it comes to sexual pleasure, lets be honest, machines have replaced men (not that they ever did the job in the first place).

I was surprised these even exist...

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vice.com/amp/en/article/k7bnjv/thrusting-vibrators-sex-machines

This one is borderline sentient(it responds to your movements)

https://www.vice.com/amp/en/article/epzvzp/womanizer-duo-review

I agree that you shouldn't stop indulging yourself. Using a good bullet vibrator with a dildo makes quick work of it for me. Then I can get through multiple orgasms with minimal effort in record time. I assume that suppressing your sex drive involves changing your body chemistry in ways that could lower your energy and health so I can't imagine that being a net gain.

masturbating works for me. i can't think or concentrate when i'm ovulating, but after masturbating it all goes away. i don't know if the same happens to you, but it's worht a try.

Spearmint tea? I wish I knew this 20 years ago. It’s less frequent but my sex drive still trips into overdrive sometimes and I can’t think of anything but. I will try this tea.

I don't have any advice for supplements or techniques to lower sex drive, but maybe it would be worth it to invest in a fuck machine?

I also have a stupid high sex drive 👋👋

I've also only had sex maybe once or twice in the last 3 years? Idk I did celibacy on accident (for political reasons), I'm not really keeping track. I occasionally let my husband or my boyfriend go down on me more for them then me tbh. I could take it or leave it, and receiving oral isnt my favorite thing, but the BF is really good at it 😂 so it's not "real" celibacy but it still feels like it most of the time. Investing some time in finding a decent FWB might solve your problem, but in the meantime here's what I learned.

Masterbation doesn't really help. Sorry, I know it's fun, it provides nice stress relief, all them hormones, etc it's not going to reduce your libido. It may actually increase your libido as you go longer without sex. I'm not saying you need to stop altogether, but gradually reducing how much you do will be helpful eventually.

Eventually is the keyword there. Anything that might work will take months, maybe even years to work. Masterbation means thinking about sex, thinking about sex keeps your libido up. There are some meditations that might help. The Buddhists have a whole system for it ( https://buddhism.stackexchange.com/questions/22851/dealing-with-lust )

I didn't find the Buddhist meditations helpful but maybe you will. In particular I really disliked the "meditating on the ugly/disgusting" aka "non-beautiful" part. All it did was make me more comfortable with gross things 🤢

What did help me (ironically) was a Tantric meditation on cycling energy throughout my body, particularly moving energy out of my base chakra and moving it elsewhere. Although tbh that made things worse early on in my celibacy journey, but now I'm pretty sure it was because focusing my awareness on my sexual energy just made me hyper-aware of it even though I was only trying to "spread it out."

Lol are you me! I’m very horny and want to be cuddled at night so I feel you with that. It’s good that you have a healthy sex drive and I’d actually advise you channel that energy instead of trying to suppress it. The following things have helped me 1. Tracking my cycles- Ive noticed I’m always more emotional, horny when I’m in fertile period (days leading up to and including ovulation). This has helped remind me that this is just my body wanting to create a baby so of course Mr. Dusty will look more attractive to you because your hormones want you to become pregnant. After my ovulation period the scrotes look like scrotes. - if you’re interested in cycle tracking- I’d highly recommend the book- The 5th vital signs and the book taking charge of your fertility 2. Sensual/sexy dancing- this helps channel my horny energy. If you like try salsa, Zumba, belly dancing, heel dancing. There are YouTube videos or you could join a local class and be amongst other women and also make some friends. I’ve noticed that the cardio plus moving my body in this sensual way helps with the hormones 3. Baths, scents and self-pleasure practice- find aromatic senses, candles, body lotions and give yourself a very deep and nice massage. Then go to bed and self-pleasure yourself and take the time to learn. This also helps with treating and taking care of your body and raising your standard on what you expect in the bedroom when you do meet that HVM. 3. Drinking spearmint tea- I have PCOS so my androgen levels are higher. I take this for help lower and balance my androgen levels. But this could help with balancing sex drive. If you like you can get your blood work checked to see your free and total testosterone levels. 4: Weighted blankets- so I haven’t purchased one yet but I’ve read a lot about how it boosts serontin and May help with increasing oxytocin (the bonding energy released after sex).