There’s a societal pressure for women to take bare minimum and I see it everywhere

Once you find FDS, you can't go back. Being out in the real world with people is now like living in the Twilight Zone. You wonder if you're the crazy one for having standards, expecting respect, and knowing your own worth. It's also crystal clear just how much this world hates women and wants us to accept the worst possible treatment. I see the dehumanization, objectification, and disrespect in a new way. It's like we are drowning in it. I'm thankful to have a refuge here at least.

Big LOL at them acting like treating a women on a date is something only white people do. West African cultures are much more traditional/patriarchal than Western/Anglo cultures, these men expect women to have kids, not work, keep the house clean, fix their favorite meals, look hot (and maybe even deal with his 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc wife), how the fuck can you afford to provide for that if you can't even pay for a date??? Disgusting behavior.

"So who no get money no go knack?" YES SIR, if you're broke, you have no business getting busy with a woman. Go get a job.

And yet, if a woman did the same thing as that date, she'd be labelled as a "crazy gold-digger."🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

This community makes me feel sane, seriously. I feel like this is the only place I can talk about my actual standards. Most of my friends/family think I require too much from men, meanwhile the things I require are bare minimum traits that most people seeking long-term relationships should have (hygiene, good sense of humor, romantic, passionate, kind, fun to be around, not broke, maintains their physical appearance, etc). I can only hope that I start to attract more friendships with women who think like me. It’s hard having pickme friends, ngl.

When i see things like this, it makes me so glad I found fds. although pre-fds I would have still found this insane. You don’t ask a woman on a date to what I assume is a restaurant without having money.

i think he expected her to offer to pay that’s why he asked her there. If he really wanted to take her somewhere, I’m sure he could have found something for free or very low cost. Then it would be up to her if she wanted to go on a date like that.

Huh? But I thought 50/50 was the way to go. She brought herself food and pay her half- her half. 😎 Not her fault that his 50 was 0. 🤣

Also, these clowns are embarrassing themselves. If real dates are so fucking triggering and gross, then dating ain't for you! If you're seriously broke that dating makes you clutch your wallet in a cold sweat, then dating ain't for you!! If eating food with a woman makes you wanna kill yourself, THEN DATING AIN'T FOR YOU!!!

He didn't want to pay for food, he could have just done a video call; but then she wouldn't have experienced how broke he was. He wasted two hours of her time she could have used to spend on someone who was more aligned to her. The audacity of that guy to think he can worm his way into her life.

Good girl. A pickme would buy something for him too. I wonder if he only talked to her to see if she would get him something too and left when she didn’t answer him. He wasted 2 hours of her time but I’m sure she learned her lesson to never give scrotes a free access to your time.

The comments of these idiots really get on my nerves. He wasn’t honest because if he was he would have told her before they meet up that he doesn’t have any money or ask for a video chat because he can’t treat her. That’s honesty not luring into your scrote trap and waste 2 hours and then tell her you’re not going to order anything.

Months ago An old scrote who was probably looking for a wife with a purse because he talks about giving him a ride to the grocery store every week when I have my car. He Is always being very nice and chatty. I was running short on 1$ dollar and asked if he can help me and I would go back home and give the dollar back. He said he doesn’t have money on him I said its Ok and left the stuff behind with The cashier to walk home, the scrote paid for over 30$ for his groceries when he thought I was out of eye sight. I came back sooner because I had another dollar in my pocket. He said nothing and looked at my direction a little embarrassed. When I spotted him again he tried to talk asking if I bought my car but I completely ignored him. Never again will I entertain scrotes and he can shove the free car rides to attend his own needs where the sun doesn’t shine. I won’t help a single man unless they helped me first. That was the moment where I left my pickme mentality behind.

Can't afford to buy her dinner but certainly is expecting sex which could result in a baby for her to pay for. F these guys. Seriously. If you ask me out at meal time, I'm eating. And he should feel bad for being broke on a date. How about staying at work until you're not broke? I've never gone to a restaurant and not been able to pay. FOH. And those defending him are insane. They're the same people who'd have no empathy for her if she did get involved with him and get pregnant. They'd tell her she should have known and chosen better.

To me, unless you are a teen, there is no casual dating. There is courting or you're wasting a woman's time. (No, I do not believe in college dating either, unless he's working too and can at least pay for fast food.) So, if he can't afford to pay for her and him, he is a fraud.

He should be ashamed of himself.