There is no shame in holding "double standards", and you absolutely should

Simply because nature has built-in double standards. That's how it works.

This last weekend, while at a restaurant in a busy area with a close friend, we spotted a very attractive man. My friend expressed a sense of shame for feeling that she shouldn't want to "admire" his physical beauty while feeling that scrotes who ogle are gross. A couple of days ago, a poster here asked about how to find out if she's a man's """type""". Don't fall for this trap set up in place by the patriarchy.

In nature females are the ones who sexually select based on physical attributes. Males fight with each other over the opportunity to present themselves to the female, who then chooses whether to mate with him. Males don't assess females physically; their drive is to fight for their access, mate and have offspring. So why should humans be so radically different from nature? We shouldn't.

To a normal, non-dysfunctional man, every woman is potentially attractive. An unmarried man that expresses a strong unbalance in his attraction to different women is drawing his unnatural physical preferences from porn, and you should stay away from him. This "men are visual creatures" bs was concocted to facilitate male access to females, not because of an innate desire to sexually select based on looks.

This is where the misguided sense of shame creeps up on women who are still levelling up. They realize they have distinct physical standards for the men they are willing to date, so why shouldn't men be entitled to those too? Because, as I said in the opening paragraph, that's how nature works. If you're only interested in fit men over 6'2" with a strong jawline, deep voice and a full head of thick hair, then you should only entertain an approach made by men with those attributes. Don't lower your standards just because "but what about men?". Embrace them. You, as a woman, are entitled to them.