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What is it with men trying to get free shit off of you from OLD?
Yes I know that most don't agree with OLD and I am beginning to see why. I am a person who has to experience things before I learn my lesson and boy am I learning it.
Little bit of backstory I am an avid Kayaker and spend most of my free time doing so.
Numerous times men have tried to get me to be their kayak instructor after a few back and forth messages. One said "We could go kayaking sometime together." And I was like that would be cool. But I assumed that would be after getting to know each other cuz, you know, I don't want to go in the middle of a lake with a total stranger without having gone on quite a few dates with them.
Then he sends me his instagram and wants me to message me on there so we can plan to kayak. No formal request for dinner or even asking for a date! Just someone to take him to do stuff.
This has happened numerous times and it gets so frustrating. Unless you are going to pay me I am not going to teach you shit.
Thank you for your interest! A 30min kayak instruction lesson will cost $100. ould you like to pay in cash, check, or card?
It’s normal imo for people to latch onto the thing you say you love in your profile regardless of gender. It’s an easy way to get them talking to you. But I rarely hear about women pushing men to give them instruction before the first date. Half the time it's just scrotes using the lowest-hanging fruit to try and get off the app and into your DMs.
I wouldn’t be surprised if these pushy guys weren’t genuinely interested in kayaking in the first place. Best case scenario in their minds is they steamroll through you while learning how to kayak to impress the next girl.
Oi vey. What did you tell him?
I'm not in the same situation but occasionally you'll get guys wanting to "make friends"
I'll be like err no, I'm on here for dating, not friends.
If a guy wants a kayak buddy he can sign up for a legit lesson, or go find a meetup group!
It's a lazy way to make conversation. Guarantee they had minimal to zero interest in actually learning. I got the same thing about a musical instrument I played as well as martial arts--which I can't exactly teach much of if I'm not a qualified instructor....also--that'd be awkward as hell to 'teach' a stranger on a date. how 'bout I judo flip you out of my DMs instead greg
OLD is free, so it attracts cheap, entitled men (ie most men anyway). I had a profile pic of me enjoying a meal at an upscale restaurant (my attempt to display my standards), and scrotes would cold-open, “Wow, I can’t wait for you to take me out to fancy restaurants!” It’s tiring, but it’s how it is. Just block and delete every time it happens. They’re making it easy for you to immediately reject them.
Omg lol ew to these guys