I am a bit curious of a man like this at the moment, since there is a man like that in my college class. I would say that he is probably about 6'5 in height, and with a muscular build and broad shoulders, and a perfect face and short, dark great hair. He has the kind of looks that makes people stunned, and I have noticed myself that I become really nervous whenever he is nearby. If he stands somewhere, then it never takes that long until a girl walks up to him and starts flirting with him, or just acting really sweet and welcoming in general, and there are almost always some girls sitting close to him during lectures and inviting him on small talk, and flirting. It is quite funny, because I never see him make any particular efforts at all; he frequently gets approached on a regular basis, and based on what I have seen, he basically just acts polite and civilised while the girl carries the small talk and makes it really easy for him on that point, and then always nervously asks him on a date very quickly. I think that a lot of guys in our class are jealous of him, since he completely steals all attention very easily without even trying; I have a couple friends in other classes who have dated him, and they have told me during their relationships that they have felt that he was "the one", and that they could even see themselves have babies with him in the future, but then they got dumped by him. I also remember a couple situations when model agents have come up and talked to him, and apparently he worked for them, based on what I heard those times. It is quite intriguing to me how this man gets all of these opportunities simply because of his looks, and I wonder if it is something common. What are your comments on this?
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So he has lots of women lusting after him. And? Good looks doesn't equal HV. I don't quite understand why women are so obsessed with "cracking the code" on highly attractive men as if they were another species or guaranteed to be great partners. If he is interested in you, he will show you. If not, he won't. Definitely don't feel tempted to make the first move just because he's "used" to women throwing themselves at him. He needs to prove that he is of value besides being pretty to look at. I like looking at beautiful men as much as the next hetero woman, but I don't develop actual interest based on looks alone. And I definitely don't feel the need to validate my ego by getting this desirable man to choose me. It's actually quite the opposite, if a man has too much female attention on him, I don't feel like competing and I think it makes most men conceited and entitled. ETA: also, your comments about his past girlfriends saying he was "the one"... Hormones, baby. Especially if they felt the need to procreate with him, because he obviously has good genes. If any of them weren't together longer than 3 years, "the one" is BS, because that's how long infatuation can last.
Yes, pretty people get a lot of attention. 🤷🏻♀️
He's used to getting many opportunities sexually with no effort. He might still be scared of rejection when dating a woman he connects with emotionally as not used to being rejected from something that matters to him - but that's if he bothers to put in effort to date her - this guy doesn't sound interested in dating just pumping and dumping. Sex isn't a biggie for most guys but emotions are. Avoid guys who put in minimal effort to form a connection but expect sex. Most average looking and hot men think the whole world revolves around them. Just because he looks high quality doesn't meant he's high value inside. Hot men from my experience were extremely narcissistic
Tall, dark and handsome with great hair is how you’ve described him. Living as a good looking, muscular man in a man’s world, too. Sounds like he’s got a lot of pretty/tall privilege, and an evo psych person might have a lot to say about his perceived relative value as a mate.
Men who never receive positive attention from women grow bitter. Men who receive too much positive attention from women grow entitled.
Plenty of women have this going for them but just because you can attract a lot of people doesn't mean it's easier or a super power.
Like look at women with high male followings - it's not an indication of easier life dating since the vast majority of "orbiters" just want their looks for procreation.
I have noticed that he has been checking me out on several occasions lately, like appearing to look at my body for a ouple seconds when he sees me and things like that; do you think that this might mean anything?
a lot do women like approaching men. i used to do that in high school but i stopped .if a man wants you he does and even if he doesn’t reject you, they can say yes and not really like you but like the benefits.
So, um, I have made 2 approaches on this guy lately, and started some small talk with him. I was super-nervous both times, but I felt as if there might be something there; I noticed that he was being quite flirty to me while we talked, like made long eye contacts with me and smiled, and he touched my arms a couple times the second time we talked. I am not sure how to continue from here, but maybe I can ask him if he wants to meet some time?