There was this friend when I was a teenager and she was the greatest pick me I have ever known. But, at that time, I didn't know the name of her character and just thought she was weird and annoying. I'm just saying our friendship ended because it was New Years and her boyfriend wanted to stay alone with his friends. She would be left alone and, so, I took it with me and other friends on a party. She got so drunk they kicked us out of the club. And she forced me to call her boyfriend to be with him. She literally built a "princess rescue" situation on my loyalty and sisterhood. And he never thought he should apologize for ruining my New Year's Eve. Ok, I wanted to tell another anecdote that I think is always related to the pick me culture but I want to have your confirmation. Two guys invited us to eat with them at McDonald's. And she didn't order anything because she said she was ashamed to eat in front of the guys. And he watched me eat a big mac with a disgusted face. And I'll never forget that big mac 🤣. At the end of the date, when we were alone, he dragged me back to McDonald's again and got like some toast and ice cream and other stuff. And I was like: wtf. 😮
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Not eating in front of people is not really a pick me thing. Some people are uncomfortable with that or have an eating disorder. When we talk about "pick me" in FDS, we're talking about people who put men/women before themselves and potentially endanger themselves and people around them such as their children. You seem to be quite "not like other girls" and comparing yourself with her for something that trivial, that's not very FDS.
I get embarrassed sometimes with the frequency I need to eat. In middle school a girl sincerely asked if I was getting fed at home because I was like a garbage disposal. I'm a flight attendant so I'll be working with someone all day and they will see me eat several times when they hardly have eaten. And I'll still be hungry too. People always mention how I eat all the time and I'm pretty self conscious about it despite being a size 4 in my uniform. It's comments from both men and women. So I kinda get the eating thing.
Hey, please read the handbook. We use the word pick-me in very specific instances. Everyone has flaws. High-value women don't feel the need to be overly critical of other women's less-than-perfect tendencies. I think you should focus on yourself right now.
You're right; it is very pickme behaviour. I had a former friend who use to do this nonsense too. She wouldn't eat in front of her crush, then complain about being hungry later. She'd also want me to stay with her to eat when her crush would eventually leave the table which then took up most of my lunch break, especially when you add the fact that she would eat really slowly. The things pickmes do to seem "cool" or in this case, "ladylike" to men is beyond me.
Why these women think that they can't just eat neatly in front of a guy is not something I understand. If a man is going to judge you for what you pick off the menu then that's his problem. There are men that will judge a woman for picking something healthy like grilled salmon or a salad while some would judge a woman for picking a burger. Men, as we know, are never satisfied. They want women to eat a lot and not be overly health conscious but at the same time, despite all the eating they want her to do, they also want her to be as skinny as possible. Provided the woman isn't eating messily, she should pick what she wants.