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We've all seen the posts about how expensive, time-consuming, and stressful weddings can be. And to some extent, it's absolutely true. But now LVM are taking advantage of this line of thought to shame women who want weddings for being "high-maintenance" or "materialistic". Or condemn it for being an outdated religious practice.
Here's my case on why weddings matter- they should be excited to be with you. They want to shout it out from the rooftops and let everyone in their social circle to know that they want to spend the rest of their lives with you. They want to *celebrate* you and your union! Think about it, when men (and women) get a promotion at work or land a dream job they've always wanted, they'll be sharing the news and going out to celebrate with their friends and family. Their boss doesn't need to convince them to share the news- they'll just naturally want to. Because they're excited and feel so happy about the new chapter in their lives! This is how it should be for anyone who's in love and ready for commitment. If they drag their feet, complain about expenses etc and you have to convince them, then you need to reassess how they actually feel about you.
The caveat here is that I'm not promoting the whole church-styled, traditional white wedding to everyone. I'm not religious myself and won't be going down that route. However, if they don't want any kind of wedding or don't want to get involved in the planning, that's a red flag. Even on a lower budget, you can still celebrate and make a big deal out of it- because it is a big deal!
For the ladies out there who see marriage in their futures, don't settle for less! ✨
Your perspective on weddings resonates deeply. Celebrating love and commitment is indeed a momentous occasion, and your insight into the genuine excitement and eagerness to share the news beautifully captures the essence of a meaningful union.
In honor of your belief in the importance of celebrating love, I present to you a thoughtful wedding gift—a personalized keepsake box. This box, adorned with elegance, is meant to safeguard the cherished memories of your special day. May it serve as a tangible reminder of the joyous commitment you've embarked upon and the love that continues to grow.
Wishing you a lifetime filled with love, laughter, and countless moments worth celebrating.
In all of the successful marriages I have seen, the man seems to know extremely quickly that the woman was "the one." They didn't share that revelation until later in the relationship, but they knew it in their hearts, and it showed through in their actions. These HVM were purposeful and respectful. They were always steering the relationship toward their goal. The one caveat I will say is that he should want to marry you because you are YOU not because he wants the idea of marriage. My ex did all the love-bombing, claimed to want to marry me, and indicated he was sure about me within two months of casual dating and two weeks of being my boyfriend. When they love-bomb it is a clear indication that they are more interested in themselves than in you. A HVM will pursue respectfully but always subtly steering you towards that goal. This is not to say that a HVM will not walk away or that he is more goal oriented than you oriented. Rather, these men view dating as a highway to marriage. They are comfortable with getting off at any exits at the first red flag, but they are still driving down that highway with intent.
I want to say that my two hv ex bfs were incredibly excited about the idea of marriage to me and one was Buddhist and the other Agnostic, it wasn’t religion fueled at all. They wanted big weddings with all of their family and were happy to talk about future plans, even sitting down with me to create a timeline and milestones we’d both like to hit before popping the big question. Men who want to marry you will definitely let you know. So ladies, if you want marriage and the dude hasn’t brought it up nor talked about it at all I’d say cut your losses and dump him because do you really want a man who doesn’t want to marry you just placating you? I wouldn’t be able to sleep at night if I knew my husband had only married me to shut me up. That would hurt so bad. :/ I also want to mention that a desire to be married was first discussed while dating, before my bfs and I were bf/gf. Something like this is a dealbreaker that should be discussed early on.