Test your FDS skills and identify the red flags 🚩

What kind of lowlife crashes a stranger's wake? It would be one thing if she asked him to be there, or if they were very close friends and he could legitimately claim to want to support her, or if he had known the grandmother, or if he had any history with this poor woman besides throwing himself at her repeatedly and being politely brushed off. Imagine grieving with your family at a beloved relative's wake and some thirsty orbiter strolls in expecting to get your attention. Imagine feeling so entitled to a woman's time and emotional energy that you believe her grandmother's funeral is a good opportunity to flirt and "show support" (for a woman you barely know, who has repeatedly told you she isn't interested in a relationship).

Hey, scrote? She has told you several times that she doesn't want a relationship with you. Has it crossed your mind that she thinks you're a psycho and she's trying to reject you politely so that you don't stalk her, rape her, kill her, and store her head in your dungeon freezer? This is triply likely because you're practically 30 and she's just a few years out of high school. I feel so sorry for this woman and hope one of her male relatives forcefully takes care of the problem for her if he really is crazy enough to go to the funeral.

The bar is truly in hell.

Also the age gap is iffy to me

The way my jaw dropped at the ridiculous title alone 💀 Mourning should be for the FAMILY. It should not be for some guy she happened to kiss on a few occasions. Also, it’s kinda weird how he said his one friend knew she was in an abusive relationship before. It sounds like he’s digging on her past

He needs to back off.

Noooooo. Going to the wake is too far.

He needs to back off from the younger woman since she's not ready to get back into the dating pool; he also shouldn't go to her grandmother's wake, she didn't invite him.

Let’s see… “I (29M) really like this girl (23F) 🚩 age gap “We kissed and everything the first night. I then asked her out” 🚩 why are you kissing “and everything” someone you haven’t asked out? Why do you need to tell us about it? Are you bragging? “She couldn’t go on the date because one of her cousins had a crush on me” 🚩 but she kissed you? Either that kiss wasn’t consensual, or she’s not interested and trying to let you down easy (likely for the same reason she feel coerced into kissing you). Leave her alone. “ she sent me a text saying she really likes me but it’s not ready yet, as she knows she can’t give 100%” 🚩 her second request for you to leave her alone. “my friend has told me she used to be in an abusive relationship, so I understand” 🚩 why did your friend need to tell you this? Is it your business to know? Why do you need any reason other than the one she already gave you? “Do you think it would be a bad idea for me to show up and show support for her or will it come across as manipulative?” 🚩 if you have to ask whether something seems manipulative, you already know the answer is “yes”, and you real question is “I want to do this thing that’s kind of manipulative. Can I get away with it?” “ I really like her and want to be there to show support” 🚩 exactly how is showing up at the wake for the grandma (whom you do not know) of this woman whom you are not dating, are not friends with, and has twice told you that she doesn’t want to date you, showing “support”? Support for whom? What can you possibly offer in this scenario? “I have great chemistry with this girl” 🚩 You do not. “Once she denied me” 🚩 Denied you what, bro? Sounds like you feel entitled to her attention on some level. “Would love to be there for her” 🚩 Again, what can you possibly offer in this situation? Do you think your presence is some kind of gift? So that’s ten, by my count.

TLDR; ”I’m a predatory male [shocker] seeking to take advantage of a young woman [shocker] in the most vulnerable position of her life [shocker], am I the asshole?”

it’s like it hardwired in their soulless vessels to be devoid of any humanity

Wow. The title made me think she invited him or something at first, but it got even worse the more I kept reading. She really should’ve blocked and deleted since her explanation seemed to open the doors for him to look for loopholes or ways to get into her life. Once I told a scrote I didn’t want a commitment at the time and I wasn’t ready to date. His response was to wait until I mentioned it again and say, “I think you’re ready.” Like wtf 🤮how would you know and how messed up is it to say that.

Age gap, that he just asked her to hangout he didn’t ask her to go on a real date, he kissed her and held hands with her before getting to know her, he wants to go to the wake and talk to her; she’ll be vulnerable then and more open to his advances.

I feel like having a weekly or monthly exercise of this sort would be beneficial to FDS to keep our skills sharp.

Huh, it doesn’t seem red flag-y to me?

Like he’s thinking about it, and asking? I don't think he should go at all, but that he's considered it because he likes her isn't so bad.

Everything else- he seems to have respected what the girl said..?