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Ladies, stop caring about what’s “fair” when it comes to men. But…. but men paying for dates is so unfair, we need to go 50/50!!!! 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 No.
While you’re worrying about what’s “fair” for him, he literally doesn’t give a flying fuck about what's fair for you. He’s busy thinking (or not thinking at all, this behavior comes effortlessly to them) about what is easiest, most convenient for HIM. He’s thinking: what will benefit ME the most? The only time they bring up fairness is to gain advantage for THEMSELVES. When he’s asks you to go 50/50, he’s internally thinking how can I save money for MYSELF, while whining about fairness to you. Meanwhile, he’s skiving off on the household chores. Perfect 50/50 does not exist, but the only place he’s gonna insist on it is paying for dates because it benefits HIM. You bet that conscientiousness about “fairness” is gonna disappear when it comes to household chores. 🤡🤡🤡🤡 So you see, it’s not about “fairness” at all!
About 91 % of women with children spend at least an hour per day on housework, compared with 30% of men with children.
95 percent of heterosexual men reported they usually or always orgasmed during sex, compared to 65 percent of heterosexual women (doubtful, it's probably lower😬😬😬), who were the least likely.
I could go on.
Clearly men don’t give a flying fuck about fairness. So it’s time you stopped too.
And lemme tell you ladies, this isn’t just a problem with individual selfish men, this is a problem about men as a class. Males have been waging war against women with no compunctions about fairness AT ALL. They have attempted to stack the decks in their favor since the beginning of human society (no votes and bank accounts for women, but sure let’s tax them!), and that is why they created the patriarchy which women still live under today.
Ladies, we live in an unfair society where male interest is consistently prioritized over women’s welfare. All men benefit from this system, even HVM. LVM will try to further entrench their patriarchal privilege by hoodwinking you into further disadvantaging yourself under the guise of “fairness”. HVM will not press you into doing so. THAT’s the difference between HV and LV men. In this unfair society, it is absolutely essential to prioritize female interest unapologetically.
So let’s retire the arguments about 50/50 that goes “oh you see ladies have to spend more money on nails and hair and yadda yadda yadda to doll up for men, that’s why 50/50 is unfair!”. No, I don’t care. We don’t have to justify a guy paying for our dates with “fairness”. He pays because he wants to, no gun to his head. That’s it. This applies to everything, not just 50/50.
Talking about “fairness” when LVM were never interested in “fairness” anyway is just pure clownery. Trying to cut an even deck while men are happily taking cards from your deck to add to theirs is the no. 1 way to play the fool. Men are playing to win. When women play to draw, guess who wins? Duh.
Instead ladies, think about fairness in relation to women. Think about how you are treating the HVW in your lives. Are you reciprocating their efforts and investing in your relationship with them? Are you treating HVW fairly and sincerely? Let’s give our time and energy to HVW.
So stop worrying about being “fair” to men and here’s to building sisterhood and tearing down the patriarchy! 👑💁🏻♀️
Note: With regards to this argument (ladies have to spend more money on nails etc), I would encourage you ladies to NOT spend that money. Instead, save that money and invest it into levelling up (education, investments and property). It seems absurd to me to spend an unreasonable and dispproportionate amount of time and money on a guy/date, when most of them are disappointing. In fact, the patriarchy wants you to do that so you get held back while the guys race ahead. Sure, let's look attractive and presentable, but that's it. He's the interviewee and you're vetting him. Stop spending money on guys and start levelling up.
Sources:
Household chore gap
Orgasm gap:
Also, men make more money (even at the same job) and have more opportunities for lucrative part time work( snow plowing, security or local crew at concerts) Also, pensions and overtime earnings lead to fatter paychecks. Society offers men many ways to pick up extra work for big bucks. If they insist on 50/50 you can insist on percentages. % for %. If they really care about fairness that would be fairest. ( unless you make more, then it’s up to you to decide what’s fair; especially if you will have a family)
If he can't/won't buy you dinner, he's not gonna provide for you and his child. I hate stingy men. Stinginess goes clean to the depths of their soul. There's nothing a stingy man won't withhold from you: money, time, affection, attention, time, sex. He'll start with money and then work his way to the other things.
A HVM wont just "not press you into disadvantaging yourself" he would defend you and not let you do it in the first place. A HVM isnt neutral and passive. He would be actively a high value male.
Biology and mother nature are also extremely unfair (just browse birth stories on mumsnet for tales of "how I almost died in childbirth"). When men have to worry about periods, PMS, possibility of getting pregnant, childbirth etc....THEN we can talk about 50-50. Until then ladies, EQUALISE the playin field by expecting MORE from men and giving them LESS.
Everything from the 50/50 dates, the first coffee/walk in the park cheap ass dates, forcing women to make the first move on the men, hookup culture and having women feel like she needs to fuck him quickly or else lose him, etc etc etc... These have never benefitted women one bit, but more than that? They all haven't really benefitted men either, even if they think so. When a woman tries too hard, she immediately becomes unattractive in his eyes. A woman who makes the first move? He'll never feel a pull towards her or want her as his wife in the future if marriage is what she desires. A woman who is fine with 50/50 and hooking up quickly in the first month? He'll definitely lose interest in her and wish he can meet a "real one".
But how can you meet a real one when you're out here forcing women to behave in ways that you KNOW will make everyone unattracted to each other? Clown shit.
Does he have any risk of pregnancy when you both have sex? No? Then it will never be 50/50, simple as that.