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I've been using OLD and wanted to share some paraphrased messages that a scrote sent me, which resulted in me ghosting and blocking him.
Scrote: I like living on my own my dad was just talking to me and said he found a cheaper sofa and elliptical and sent me the links, so I canceled the others I bought and opted for the ones he found online. I don't have any real furniture so I need to get that next maybe my dad can help me?
I feel energetic today, because I haven't been eating fast food and started to use my kitchen. I really need to order some more kitchen supplies maybe when I get paid again I'll get cutlery. I only have one knife and I've been here over a year!
Also, how do you think we are doing, I mean, I really like talking to you and it's cool to message you through (OLD app). What do you think about us? You're my favorite person to talk to and that's why I take a few days to respond, I want to give a thorough answer. We seem compatible because we have good chats and I am attracted to your intelligence!
And your story about the drive through made me laugh, I'm imagining you straining yourself in your small car to reach the window I bet you looked so cute trying to get your order when you couldn't reach! Talking to you really has been so helpful to me and you don't know it but you've been motivating me. You seem so put together.
👑ANALYSIS 👑
-he took days to respond
-he sent me all of that word soup (the real message was even longer)
🚩-seems like he may be relying on his parents to help him and do legwork for him. He's 31!
🚩-he lived in his apartment for over a year and doesn't have "real furniture" or cutlery. This should not be the frat house special, a real adult especially for being there a year and being in their 30s would have put together a proper apartment and kitchen, even if it was basic or modest.
🚩- notice how he mentions not eating fast food anymore and getting a treadmill plus no cutlery. Sounds like he doesn't have any care to be cooking, or any skills.
🚩-the concern about the price of the sofa and treadmill can be a clue that he's broke or cheap
🚩asking about how we were doing was odd. Seems like an attempt to put the ball in my court and have me do the legwork, or a shit test to see if I will be a pickme that chases him.
🚩he admitted that he's attracted to me on an intellectual level, seems almost like a sneaky neg of admitting he doesn't really find me physically attractive and/or just likes the chat because it's attention from a woman.
🚩being his favorite person from OLD: notice how he strategically placed it right before he told me about the intellectual attraction. An attempt to disguise the neg, or a little bit of love bombing. I really also don't think many (or any) other women talk to him.
🚩the fact associated me struggling with being "cute" - this is just pure scrote audacity. I had been in a drive through and the window was dramatically higher than my car, so I was really struggling and straining myself trying to get my coffee order. Any man that watches you struggle or thinks you having a hard time is "cute" ALONE is enough of a reason to immediately delete and block.
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So that was a long analysis but I think it was a great example that can he a helpful lesson. old is the perfect climate to ghost and block. Do not message him after seeing a red flag, do not give him closure, don't explain why or apologize that you are no longer interested. Just vanish without a word. Giving them any explanations just makes it harder for the next women to see his red flags.
With this guy we hard briefly chatted about his job and then mine and then he vanished for a few days. Next thing I know there's a massively huge message from him (which is what I paraphrased above).... so what other input or red flags did I miss?
seems to me he is looking for a "fixer", a woman who wll take him up as her personal project. "oh look at him! he doesn't even have furniture and he doesn't eat properly. i should take care of him and help him put his shit together. then he'll definitely want to be my boyfriend"
and what e said about you looking cute, i think he meant you probably looked sexy. porn websites are filled with "hot stepsister stuck in [insert ordinary object here] gets fucked by her brother" or whatever.
it's a trap! congrats on being smarter. you've dodged a bullet there.
I wish every woman treated every man like this:
"Do not message him after seeing a red flag, do not give him closure, don't explain why or apologize that you are no longer interested. Just vanish without a word. Giving them any explanations just makes it harder for the next women to see his red flags."
Thank you for the learning tips, I hope younger women don't fall into predators traps.
Listen to your gut the first time, no matter how small, if you're inexperienced to manipulation. You're gut is always right.
He took days to respond? In the bin. I hate to say it but ladies, there are too many obvious “I met a scrote but I’m still entertaining him” posts. Come on, we’re better than this.
Imagine being a grown-ass 31-year-old man and admitting you don’t have real furniture or silverware and need Daddy’s help to find it, that you live entirely on McMeals, and that you are inspired by people who have regular, steady employment. What a train wreck
Yes, I block fast now. If there is something I don't like, even spelling, they're out. I used to give them chances to improve. It never worked out.
“I take days to respond so I can give a really thought out answer” *Two days later* “So I’ve been using the same knife for a year, lol”
I'm around the same age as this guy, and my life kind of a mess currently...... which is why I'm not dating, I'm focused on getting my shit in order lol. These kinds of dudes are more interested in getting someone to act like a second mommy than being functional, independent adults.
I think most women would die of embarrassment if they had to tell a potential date they had no "real furniture" or cutlery. I could never.
One thing that stuck out to me was the "favourite person on OLD" comment.
You say he probably wasn't talking to other women, but it's possible he was interested in someone else during the time where he wasn't replying, and when they ghosted (likely after figuring out what a weirdo he seems to be) he hopped back to you and lovebombed you with compliments, hoping you were "easier" to charm.
🚩Run on sentences
Also, that you so much for making a post like this! I hope these "spot the red flags" posts become a trend here so women can get "practice" before hitting the apps. Very informative. The part about the neg I would not have considered without you.
This guy is full of negs . Easy pass . Unmatch
I just blocked a guy for getting passive aggressive with me for having the opposite work schedule as him. He can be mad about it, but im not gonna let him be mad at ME about it. GTFOH
It was something like
"Good luck with that"
"Good luck with life. I salute you"
All I could think of was this