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They want YOU to be miserable after break up, AND you going merry on your way does not fit their personal narrative of a nice/perfect guy they are.
What they want, what they are desperate to see is You being miserable, unhappy, and regretful. CAUSE YOU DARED TO BREAK UP and even worse - YOU MOVED ON. It just conflicts in every level with the lies they tell to themselves to boost their audacity.
So what they do is to periodically check up (mostly online since it is easy now) all women they had in their lives as GF, crushes, those with whom they were flirtatious, hooked up, etc etc. (yeah even high school crushes)!
If they find that the woman is having a great life, happy, merry and so on - they will do either on of the below ( but mostly first):
Hate, belittle her personality, life, achievements - either publicly or in their head;
Obesses over her and try to sneak into her life in some way, SO THEY stalk even more to find the perfect timing to catch her in the moment of weakness.
That's why ladies I would highly recommend you to keep your social media presence in positive light, ALWAYS. Never text back the trash that once you left rotting outside. Believe me it didn't magically start smelling roses.
In my personal experience I have witnessed how men that are blocked create fake accounts and check out all my IG stories. Sometimes they got courage to text and guess what? They get block and deleted. But they obsessively come back. It's so funny to see how from one time to another the content of messages change from: 'I missed you/loved you' - to passive agressive: 'You are a whore'.
Scrotes truly can't live in a world where they are not the ones having a 'main character' life and everyone else is conveniently living what they believe they 'deserve'.
But at the end they are the pathetic ones and who will DIE MAD.
Keep your leveling up and don't look back!
I made all my social media private because scrotes would re-add me years later or I would notice them orbiting, watching my stories. They wouldn't even message me, they'd just chill in the background being parasitic. I'm now careful about who has access to me, even virtually.
Like Kleopatra said, they don't want to invest that energy into bettering themselves, they just make themselves feel better by hanging on to the illusion that you're worse off without them. Maintaining some sort of power over women is how they cope.
So true! My LV ex does the same thing it’s disgusting even after changing my name everywhere even on Spotify and TikTok he still has the audacity to try to contact me or stalk my every move they are all disgusting
This is one reason why I’m not on any social. I don’t want anybody watching me or knowing what I’m doing. I love going places and doing things in total privacy. If I get good pics of a trip or something funny I text them to my actual friends. I’m soooo much happier off social, just living life for me, not for what what others may think of me.
Never have truer words been spoken! My ex saw me one day after being cut off for months. I passed by and said nothing and Instead gave my coworker a commission she hired me for. I was really happy to give it to her and she gave me compliments. It must have bruised his ego bc next thing I know that coworker just stops talking to me. Very curt and honestly a little rude. She is a motherly figure to him for some reason and I knew the moment she started to act like that it was because He talked shit. Oh well, she can keep him and I’m gonna continue being happy!
Texas Lawyer scrote wrote something on my FB timeline after I had my cat put down before I left for Spain: swooping in when I was feeling low, looking for an in. Comment deleted immediately. Then when I was in Spain and had shortened/changed my trip, he commented again. I happened to be on my phone, saw the comment, deleted immediately. If you remember, he tried to dissuade me from doing the Camino at all, saying my health was “fragile”. As if that MF would know. When I blocked him the last time, FB said it would block MOST of the comments but he had multiple accounts. Lesson learned about giving too much access too soon. I’m now a 21st century dater. Just glad he’s far away in Texas. He can stay there!
I've deleted or gone private on the only social media I use since even many years down the line I've been stalked and verbally abused by ex ZVM, not only that but they've contacted my last partner just to try to ruin my happiness.
One of my exes did everything on the list above. Total narc. Hoovering, fake SM accounts. For years. I NEVER posted anything that could be construed as sadness or negativity bc I knew he’d love that. He always seemed to know what his exes were doing, his estranged siblings. I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s still stalking me seven years later.
Go private and don’t post any sad, reflective or depressed shit. I had a narc ex-bf who stalked me for about five years after we broke up(probably still does) and I was so paranoid about him infiltrating my space. (I have a public profile for business so I couldn’t go private myself). Eventually, when I got over him, I didn’t care what he saw. I had a ‘read em and weep’ attitude about it.