Seen in the wild

Like many of us, I rarely meet men who present as high value. I truly can't think of any instances in the last 5-10 years. I have a finely honed bullshit detector (one I wasn't listening to until recently), and I see issues immediately. I swear I can actually see it in their eyes.

The other day I spent some time with a couple for business reasons. They were working as partners in their business. I had previously met her on several occasions but this was the first time she introduced me to her husband.

The energy he brought was simply beautiful. He was straightforward, masculine without being overbearing, helpful, friendly, and open. Zero "static" if that makes sense. No posturing or pretense. They were clearly in love but also completely professional. In the course of the conversation it came out they'd just gotten married a few weeks ago.

I asked how they met: online dating (ugh haha). Each have one child from their previous marriage, and both are extemely successful in their mutual field of work. He said that they were both each other's first date on the platform and they both just knew. Within a year (I didn't get exact dates) he asked her to marry him.

Of course, I have no context beyond the time I spent with them. He could be very different behind closed doors. But ladies, this was special. I believe I saw it - for the first time in a long time. It was so profound that I teared up as I walked to my car and I went to bed with a smile on my face just from being around two people who seemed so happy and in love. Usually with men, I have a lingering feeling that I try to talk myself out of. I didn't have that feeling. I felt peace.

This was a such a good moment for me coming out of a dark period of my life - like the sun shone for a moment and showed me a possibility. They both told me not to give up.

Thought I'd share this here in case it helps someone. Some may say, "you don't know for sure." I feel sure: This was it.

(And yes, he was good looking, tall, fit, and well dressed. )