I just sat next table over from this couple at a restaurant who were clearly a new couple. Weekend away together but still getting to know some of each other’s backstory. The restaurant was almost empty so I had no choice but to overhear. Mostly he talked, she simpered. She kept bringing up information about him like she was proving she’d been listening. The whole thing was gross and I kinda rushed thru my meal to get away from them. Anyway, at the end, SHE FUCKING PAID FOR DINNER. And I looked at this scrote leaning back in his chair, looking smug, clearly expecting to get laid soon, and it was just clear as day: scrotes do not see us paying as a marker of equality. They see it as a marker of subservience, just another convenient service women provide like listening to their stupid stories and sucking their stupid dicks. That girl didn’t prove she was his equal, she proved she was his doormat. I know this is what the handbook teaches but it was really brought home to me in a powerful way watching this sad spectacle. I hope she finds FDS but the way she was acting she’s probably hoping to marry the scrote.
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The smug look is what does it for me. The way these guys sit back and look like the cat that just ate the canary--and really, can you blame them? They get someone to suffer through their boring stories, act as their live-in maid and cook, serve them sexually, AND they have someone with whom to split the bills? I'd rather be single forever than endure that again.
When I was younger and still buying into the nonsense that 50-50 with a man is only fair (lol), I prided myself on never letting men buy me anything or pay for anything. This served two important purposes: it drove away HVM who were repulsed and saddened by my unknowingly pickme behavior, and attracted cheapskate scrotes and low-effort LVMs in droves, who correctly recognized that I did not yet know my own worth.
When the check comes, don't even think about reaching for that purse. In fact, don't even glance at the little folder with the bill inside. Wait for him to pay, and act like it's the most natural thing in the world for you--because it should be. See also: bills, travel expenses, shopping, or anything else you do together where money changes hands. Don't settle for less than full financial support, queens. We as women are disadvantaged in so many ways, especially financially, and he will always have more earning power than you simply by virtue of being a man. It is his job to take care of you, just as it's your job to take care of yourself while loving him back as long and as thoroughly as he continues to deserve it. Be a HVW and your HVM will forever love to take care of your material needs.
Men who have women pay for them really end up believing they are Gods who deserve it. They become incredibly entitled.
I’ll go a step further: I’m interested now in not doing anything of service to a man in the first several months of dating. Nothing at all. Like me for me, see my queen/goddess worth, worship me, realize I’m the best and coolest person you’ve ever met, or I’m out. And make every effort to be of service to me. That’s all.
Maybe we should make little cards w/the website on it to hand out to women like that! Just walk by the table and drop it in front of her 😊