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In a passing work conversation, I realized I might go to the same gym as the ex-wife of a man I work with. We were taking similar classes there, so I asked him to tell me what she looks like so I can say hello...and quite frankly, he struggled. It really took me aback.
I'm not sure if anyone noticed but me since it there was a group of maybe 4-5 people around us all chatting, but you can't think of anything more specific to describe the woman you had three children with than "blue eyes" and "short"????
Did he mentally erase her when they finalized the divorce? Or was she just filling a service role in his life and he never actually cared what she looked like? Like a freaking waitress who got you coffee at 3am at Denny's? Are we cardboard cutouts to these dudes?
I could describe a man I went on 4 dates with in greater detail....and yet, this man is at a loss for adjectives for a woman he was a husband to for 10 years.
Even more interesting to me is how little men know about any women in their lives. I had a guy friend that used to talk non-stop about his dad and brother’s hopes n dreams, life goals, etc. But ask about his mom and sister and he just drew a blank. I think a lot of men are like that.
yes, that's how i vet men when i wanna know if they're worth getting to know on a platonic level. "how would you describe (insert female friend here)?" or "what's your (insert immediate female family member) up to?"
i'm not wasting my time even platonically with a LVM who won't remember what i share with him.
This reminds me of a story a friend of mine once told me. My friend worked in a large store at the customer service desk and one day a man came to the desk and told them he had lost his kid (a toddler!!!) in the crowd and asked if they could help him. Okay, happens every day. What doesn't happen every day is that the dad only remembered his son's name, his vague age and that he was blonde. When my friend asked him what the boy was wearing that day or if there was anything else to recognize him by (like a backback, band aid, hat or whatever) so security could look for him, the dad couldn't remember. He couldn't remember what his own son that he came to the store with had been wearing. The boy was found, thankfully, because he was smarter than his dad and actually asked a store clerk for help when he couldn't find his dad, but still.
Imagine your husband not only loses your kid, but can't even properly describe his own son to the people who are trying to find him.
He might be lying to you by giving vague generic descriptions, so that you can't actually find her. Because, who knows, she might expose all the vile things her ex-scrote did to her.
But your assesment of him may also be correct, maybe he's just a moron.
I bet she has brown eyes.
Okay either he cares about women so little in his life that he can't even remember what his wife looks like *or* because men are emotionally constipated basket cases, he still hasn't resolved his breakup feelings and so the thought of remembering details of his wife's face and articulating them makes him feel too uncomfortable.
Because she was office/bedroom/kitchen furniture to him.
I can see why they’re no longer together. Wow.