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Even if you forgot every other part of the handbook, always remember FDS CORE VALUE:
Maximizing YOUR BENEFITS in dating, relationship, and life.
So you are NOT competing with other ladies for that man -- yes, even that HVM. Especially for that HVM.
You will NOT become a pickme for that HVM, dammit.
We introduce the concept of HVM here NOT for you to panic and become even more desperate to chase after that so-called "HVM".
You start panicking that "OMG all these women are gonna chase after that rare good man, what should I do??" and proceed to do exactly the things we told you not to do.
Because you still worship that man on that pedestal and hoping that he will choose you after seeing your "great personality" -- whatever that means.
Yeah, he is great and fit all your criteria and you may never meet any man as great as him in your life ever again and blah blah blah;
So, what?
Does he properly court you and clearly express his interest in you?
Does he properly chase you and try to win you over respectfully?
Does he make you feel safe, secure, content, at peace?
Has he proven himself again and again and again -- that he can be trusted and relied on?
Can you relax when you are in his company, knowing that he got it all covered?
Have you vet him ruthlessly?
If, at any point in time you feel like you have to "compete" with other women for his attention and loyalty;
WALK. THE. F**K. AWAY.
You will not, you may not, and you should not "compete" in any way, shape or form with other women for a MAN'S ATTENTION! -- BECAUSE YOU GOT PLENTY OF YOUR OWN TO DEAL WITH ALREADY!
Okay, alright, you say you look like an unfortunate potato or something, and you feel like unless you go out there and BEG for his attention, you will end up alone.
How about this -- instead of going out there and begging for a man's attention, making a fool of yourself fighting and competing with other women for his hand in marriage or some bullsh*t;
You walk away. You start getting into some serious levelling up and learn to get settled with yourself. You start getting busy with life improvements and learning new things everyday -- you upgraded your life, you get a pet. You live your own life and you live it meaningfully.
How does that sound, hmmmmm??
Or you can continue to beg for that man's attention and continue competing with other women to the point of insanity for crumbs of his attention.
You are an adult, you can choose for yourself.
Maximizing YOUR BENEFITS in dating, relationship, and life.
If he cannot make you feel content, safe, secure and at peace -- so you get hella triggered when other women is around and instantly raising your heckles, ready to fight em' to keep that man;
Explain it very clearly to me -- TF kind of benefits do you get living life like this every single day?
Are you happy? Healthy? Relaxed? Content? At peace? No?
Then kick the source of all that unnecessary stress to the curb already -- let those women WWE among themselves for him.
At the very least your blood pressure and youthful complexion will thank you. Frowning all the times ain't cute, sis.
No matter how "great" he is on paper, how "HVM" you found him, how "rare" he is and "you can never found another one like him" and blah blah -- restful sleep and peaceful mind are far more important for you.
Is it worth going haggard and exhausted all the time battling other women day in day out -- just for the sake of being able to call him your boo?
"But he competes with other men for my attention too, isn't it just fair?"
First of all to that person who started this whole "But it is just fair!" LibFem rhetoric -- I hope he stubbed his toe 10 times a day for the rest of his pathetic life.
Second of all -- why do you keep wanting to take away his responsibilities and "lessen his burden" so he can easily get you -- are you on a bargain sale?
Third, he is the damn CHASER. This is fun and exciting for him, he is BUILT for this -- he loves to compete with other men for your attention, because he PRIDED himself in being the best of the best of the best among others, and winning your attention.
This sh*t is healthy for him understand?
Meanwhile you compete with other women for crumbs of his attention and all you got are stress, wrinkles, and possibly br**st c**cer.
There are women out there who loves to chase, are wired to chase, gets the high and enjoyment from the act of chasing -- but that's not what I am seeing from the majority of women who compete against each other for that man's attention.
What I see are fear, chronic insecurity, walking on eggshells and shards of glass, deep frown and pained expression whenever they see a new "competition", and very very very severe fawn response to the man.
Like they are (metaphorically) ready to drop to the ground and worship him if he tells her to -- if that means he will stay "loyal" to her.
Don't let yourself fall that far. Reject that.
Walk away. There's no competition -- only lies and pathetic outcome.
Maximize YOUR BENEFITS in dating, relationship, and life.
Always remember that.
Stay safe, Stay WOMAN.
A male is only HV if he's focused on you and courting you. A man has no inherent value to you as a woman on his own. Only his actions towards YOU prove he's HV. His actions towards other girls do not count. His job or accomplishments don't count either, unless he's using them to impress and secure you as his woman. Only the male who treats YOU right and is focused on being with you has any value to you. Don't be impressed by things he did for himself or others. Focus on what he does for YOU.
My last boyfriend matched with my then-boss a day after we became "exclusive" (I guess we weren't that exclusive, since he was still shopping around). It created all kinds of havoc. I didn't pickme dance, perse. I told him he needed to make the decision and let me know (which was still a pickme move, as I should have left right then). He chose me (I won the sparkly turd!) I had already put in my two-weeks notice before this whole fiasco (and on good terms), but after my boss found out we were dating the same guy she essentially fired me.
This was 3 years ago and I just applied for a nursing job that does crazy background checks. They hire a third party to check all references. That b!tch gave me a negative review and said I was on the "not eligible for rehire" list.
F that pickme and F that scrote. I should have left immediately when I found out he was still looking. No, I should have left when he proposed we become "exclusive"- because that's a bogus term scrotes use when they don't want us to date anyone else, but they want to keep effing around.
I might never remember every page of the handbook, Maybe I'll wonder if I'm doing the right thing when it comes to vetting but I'll never forget that I am worthy of respect. When disrespect is served then it means everything he said is a lie. Actions speak louder than words.
I died laughing when I read “an unfortunate potato”. That is the greatest. I am going to use that for not very pleasant looking people from now on 😂