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I don't date men with dangerous hobbies like motorcycling. To me it gives off thrill seeking behavior vibes. I believe they could be more likely to cheat.
Men that like to hunt and/or fish are a turn off for me. I think it indicates a lack of respect and empathy for animals. I assume a guy like this would also not be very respectful and empathetic towards his girlfriend.
Another hobby that turns me off is playing/collecting/building Legos. Maybe I'm a mean person, but I think it's a childish hobby? Plus I think it takes up so much space.
I think it's generally okay to play video games, but I am turned off by guys who only play first-person shooter video games.
What are your red flag hobbies?
Gaming to me. I love video games but men whose hobby is gaming often revolve their lives completely around it.
Any types of hobbies which centres around consumerism like collecting toys, action figures, games and stuff. I dont mind gaming as long as he is not super obsessed with it and doesn't spend money on it. I prefer guys with more creative or creation oriented hobbies like music, cooking, painting, woodwork, coding. Even sports is cool but gym obsessed bros are a nono. Bottom line, if he can create something with his hands then its hot instead of consuming and spreading destruction in this world xD
Video gamers, especially the hardcore play all day types. So annoying, often violently misogynistic, love to use games to create a huge emotional distance between themselves and their partners/family. Fuck all of that, done it before and it was horrible feeling ignored for so many hours at a time. It's fine if he's a casual gamer, but if it's taking up more than 2 days a week, I'm walking.
Hardcore nerdy types like what someone else here mentioned here regarding Star Wars, Marvel, comic books, computers, etc. I wish we can go back to the old days when being a nerd was considered a social offence because of how sexist and embarrassing the whole thing was. I really don't care how mean this sounds, it's one thing to like a Marvel movie or have a few comic books stored in a drawer somewhere, but it's another to be very into it and go to those conventions and harass the women who go there, too.
Anime. Lots of shows and the mangas have questionable content on it, so I side eye any man who's really into it. Some shows and some mangas/manwhas have normal content on it and that's fine, but anime fanboys for the most part don't bathe, have pedophilic tendencies, misogynistic, and surprisingly racist lol. Idk they're just so annoying and ugly.
I really hate those super outdoorsy adrenaline junkies. Men who enjoy bungee jumping or skydiving or going to extremely dangerous countries or off limit places and then they act like you're so boring for having the audacity to feeling afraid of these things. Hate them so much. Plus usually these types are huge players because having unprotected sex with a lot of people = adrenaline boost. Gross.
Gym bros. This sucks so much because when a man takes care of himself physically, obviously he's going to look great and more sexually attractive overall. But at what cost lmao. Super duper misogynistic, quoting Andrew Tate and other problematic shitheads like the bible, tend to have an eating disorder and push that shit on you, etc. I do believe that a man can go to the gym and not be a gym bro, so it's a matter of vetting carefully to be able to discern between the two.
Hardcore sports fans. Nuff said. Tend to be domestic abusers. Those yearly domestic violence warning commercials and ads aren't lying whenever they play during football seasons.
Artists. I know, this really sucks because I'm into the art scene myself, but it's true. Photographers are absolute creeps. Digital media artists tend to gravitate towards the NSFW shit, though a few don't thankfully. Many who are or have become art directors end up becoming such pompous assholes about it, too. I'd rather just get with a man who appreciates art from a distance rather than being an active part of it unless he can just be fucking normal about it.
Uber political talking heads. Doesn't matter if he's some pro feminist leftist pink haired weirdo or a vile racist/sexist conservative, if he makes politics practically his entire personality, I'm gone. It's so exhausting going through the ringer with these men even if you both are on the same page about the current events and what's going on. They never just, shut up lol.
Seriously considering blacklisting men who watch Marvel or Star Wars at all because it speaks of a certain cognitive level. It is the epitome of tasteless consumerist dreck. Yes, watch this Content that corporations are spending millions of dollars per second to shove in everyone's faces and participate in the rousing Discourse about super powers like you're a goose being force-fed and turned into fois gras. Be careful to shut your brain completely off while Consuming or you won't enjoy it nearly as much.
Anyway yeah "dirt biking", " muddin'" and stuff like that is pretty bad too.
I cannot date men who "love to party and get drunk" EVERY weekend or holiday.( I have nothing against some irregular occasions where the boys get together to spend some quality time or whatever.) But EVERY WEEKEND? And their weekend always starts from friday. It just shows how less material they have to their personality and in turn makes them look shallow. Also, smokers. Second hand smoke hurts my throat, gives me headache and nausea. And smokers are mostly very selfish about smoking with no concern whatsoever for those around them. They think they are cool enough to be adjusted to, or others are being too sensitive or something. Not to mention how bad they literally STINK. Like, no sir, no amount of breathmint or cologne is going to fix that. A shower will, but what's the point if you're gna smoke one right after? Also, potential cigarette/joint smell all over the house. Ash droppings in the bathroom. So men who list these 2 things as "hobbies" are already unattractive for many reasons including these for me.
Hunting/Fishing for me, too, especially if it's just for sport or trophies. I just think someone who considers killing things a fun and rewarding passtime has a serious lack of empathy. I understand hunting for food or conservatory reasons like reasonable population control (like rangers or foresters do) as long as it happens with a certain humility and respect. But this still won't work for me because I don't eat fish or venison and will certainly not start to or want my partner to take apart his prey in my kitchen. I also do not want an arsenal of hunting weapons in the house, especially if we have kids.
Other turnoffs:
- Hobbies that are extremely dangerous, like extreme sports or racing, or wasteful like collecting thousands of any kind of overpriced plastic crap
- Hobbies that will take up every single one of his weekends or free days for hobby events, tours, conventions etc.
- "Unproductive" hobbies that eat up a lot of time like video games, binge watching etc.. I understand playing a game or watching your favorite show for an hour or two, no problem. But not the extremes this usually goes to.
- Volunteering/charity if he does not put our relationship and family first. I will not spend my life trying to compete with whatever sad cause he is supporting now for his attention or watch him donate thousands while our kids don't have shoes that fit.
EDIT: I have another hard dealbreaker for me:
- Enjoying media/content I consider problematic. Porn would be an obvious dealbreaker but something like extremely violent horror movies or thrillers where people - often women- or animals get murdered in gruesome ways would fall into that category for me, too.
You’re not being mean about the Legos thing. It’s weird for a grown man to collect and build Legos. I also am not a fan of men who collect action or anime figures
Anything anime especially hololive. The entire fanbase surrounding that garbage is just a toxic mess of freaks.
Nerdy things like Star Wars, Star Trek, Marvel.
GAMERS!! Gross.
Oh god and Legos. Embarrassing to see a grown man playing with children's toys.
Honestly, if the guy is just an all around nerd, you're in for the most toxic, abusive behavior of your life. These people are social rejects. Any kindness or interest you show towards them will be tossed back in your face like a chimp throwing shit. There's a reason they are drawn to realty escaping "hobbies." They're failed adults, with little social grace, extreme feelings of entitlement, lack of hygiene, and no capacity for emotional intelligence. They can't connect to women or each other. After only attracting nerds for my entire life, I cannot stand them. They completely disgust me.
Tons of great opinions shared here. I will generalize and say I dislike hobbies that lead to developing online “friendships” and loyalties to people he will never meet in real life. This is often through gaming, but could happen through other niche online communities. This only leads to him lacking a real social life, friendships, and interpersonal skills. Also the other people he’d hang out with online are likely to be incels, pornsick, NEETs, loners, etc. He’ll be glued to the couch for hours on end, instead of living a real life, and soaking up the worst of humanity.
I find it to be a green flag when a man has hobbies involving an in-person social group, showing he is consistent, sociable, and is capable of maintaining a multifaceted life beyond work and a significant other. This could take a variety of forms, such as a community sports league, artistic/music group, second language learning conversation, hiking club, etc.
For some weird reason MARTIAL ARTS, on paper seems ok, healthy, disciplined and protective. They meditate and shit…
The reality is that there’s something really wrong with those guys, they are twisted and sick in some unexplainable deep way and they tend to be into weird sex stuff as well.
I don't date gamers. If he so much as picks up a console, it's over. I'm fine with motorcycle riders, as long as they have some road sense.
Any hobby taken to the extreme.
I've read here that men with no hobbies are a no, and I might agree that if someone has zero interests is bad, but a man with an intense hobby, of any type, will likely put you second behind his hobby. Probably too much to ask, but his favorite hobby should be being a good partner 😂
Bikers, gamers, golfers, collect anything childish/kids play with, obsessed with soccer* and a gym rat. They are all a NO for me 😆
I dated a motorbike guy. 100% true. They are also dangerous drivers - there’s a reason so many die.
all of the “nerd” hobbies, can’t say it enough on this thread. Anime, video games, table top games, collecting crap, superhero crap, comic books. It’s funny too how they always think it makes them unique. It is very very rare to meet a man who is not a self-identified nerd nowadays, or it’s just all I have ever attracted somehow.
of course porn.
smoking weed and collecting bongs and such. Men who make smoking weed into such a hobby that it is their whole personality. It’s dumb to call it a hobby in the first place.
for some reason every guy I’ve known who plays a guitar or been in a band has been a major fuckboy. I think it might be that they learned that hobby as a way to get more women interested in them. I used to think it was a cool hobby for a guy to have but now am weary of it.
being way too into fantasy football. just an unproductive hobby.
obsession with the gym, obsession with fitness or with extreme diets.
guys who call themselves photographers, even if they are the few who actually make money on it. I am into photography and have taken classes and the men are horrible. one who I became friendly with in a class even admitted to me that he was only picking up photography because he had bad social skills and was hoping it would get him closer to women. Which confirmed my suspicions of why so many pervy dudes are interested in photography.
They never took photos of interesting or cool things on assignments, they would find a way to shoehorn some kind of soft-core porn to fit the assignment. if I have to hear the phrase “fine art nudes” one more time in my life I might vomit. I really can’t stand male photographers(mostly not even photographers, just a dude with a camera and a boner).
Men can make any innocuous hobby into a problem. That's their specialty. I once went on a date with a guy who goes every weekend to a Civil War battlefield to dig up artifacts. Every weekend? I could handle once per month maybe, but I'm tired after working all week, and then I've got chores to do in the house so that I can work the next week. Most men's major hobby is porn these days, anyway. I don't mind hunting and fishing, as I grew up hunting and fishing, and they're great skills to have. The problem is when these hobbies are used to replace human relationships. Many men hide in their hobbies so as not to have to deal with their wives and kids. One of my coworkers has always gotten up at 6 am on Saturday and Sunday and played golf till 4 pm. So he's missed most of the weekend and is too tired to give any attention to his wife or kids. That's how men roll.
Obsession with travel to the point he's never in one place. Unless you want to be nomadic.
I would love to date a fellow horse rider, but the one handsome man I found at the barn has a girlfriend already.
Video games, dungeons & dragons, anime, American football