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It’s terrible to say (even with the podcast episode), but it has been taking a while for me to FINALLY quit Reddit. I thought that if I only went on the “safe” communities, then I would be “safe” from any triggering content.
I was deeply wrong.
Today was just a bad day for me. I didn’t get the job I was interviewed for, I failed my math test, and so it was pretty crappy. That was why after everything that happened, I doom scrolled on Reddit (yes this is a nasty habit, but I am literally quitting, as the reason for this post). There was one post that really made me feel bad, and the more I scrolled everything just got worse. It was like I was meant to delete my account.
One of those posts was from BanWomenHateSubs. It is a group where people work together to get terrible subs against women deleted (though with how bad Reddit is those said groups rarely get deleted). I kept reading those posts, and thinking how such groups aren’t automatically deleted from that hellhole. It’s really depressing how many men on there hate women, who post those awful things. It makes me sick. Another one I stumbled upon was from the unpopular opinions sub. It was odd, since op said it was gross that people make jokes over 9/11, along with other tragedies like school shootings and the Holocaust. Like this should not be an unpopular opinion but okay. However there were LVM in the comment section making disgusting jokes about those things, saying those events happened “long ago” and we should “just get over it”. Or worse it’s okay to make jokes because it “helps with trauma”. Like I don’t know about you but that comment made me feel weird. It reminded me of people who tell women it’s okay to be into “non-con” if they were raped to “help with the trauma”. It was right then and there that I deleted my account. Like I know there is dark humor, but for me it crosses the line at horrifying real life events and rape.
I just feel so horrible for waiting this long to learn this lesson. The only reason I went on there (other than doom scrolling) was to look at groups dedicated to women with autism, painting tips, and cute cat pics. There is always just looking online for those, but I am just glad to deleted my account for that terrible site.
Take the deletion in small bits. I went over a month without reddit and when I went back on reddit to look up a quick thing, it was easy to not stick by it. Instead of reddit, I used my time on productive apps like DuoLingo and reading manga I left on hold. Another thing I would do is only listen or read news media like NPR that only gives the facts and not make things emotional. To help stay away, make rewards to treat self. It will be a tough journey, but it will be good in the end.
We should start making jokes about male specific tragedies, like male rape, male on male crime, and so on- even if there are few- they're actually funny 😁 I'm joking, but 51% of me is starting to get dead serious. People are against giving people a taste of their own medicine, but the more I see how male vitriol against women (for merely existing) is allowed and even celebrated the more I want to turn the tables on theseale creatures.
I’m sorry you had such a crappy day but YOU QUIT REDDIT! That’s worth a celebration. Highly recommend sites like Daily Otter/Daily Bunny to make your day brighter.
I'm really proud of you! I also quit when I realized that being on Reddit drained my energy and made me feel worse every time. It's just not worth it, and we owe it to our mental health to stay away from that cesspool. If you ever feel like redownloading it, just try to remember how you felt when you deleted it. The website will still be the same, and there's simply no reliable way to curate our experience to prevent us from being harmed by it.
“Edgy” jokes are lazy and redundant. I swear they just recycle the same tired jokes that weren’t funny the first time. It just goes to show how pathetically unremarkable the dudes of Reddit are
It really isn't worth being on that website anymore, absolutely. They have the absolute worst groups I have ever seen in my life, and ban female-centered or female-exclusive groups because they hate us that much.
One such group that I honestly cannot believe exists is a subreddit group for some weird fetish involving correctively raping lesbians. It is run by men and I think a male transwoman (who calls himself a lesbian smh) who said that they have made such a group to ~help~ lesbians cope with having this kink (huh?!) of wanting to sleep with men and to be cured of her homosexuality.
There are porn groups on there that are called things like r/deadeyes where they post pics and videos of women who are completely out of it as they are being raped... err, getting fucked... by the men in the porn videos. And all the women are either drugged out of their minds or are so traumatized that they just zone out and commenters can then talk about how interesting these dead eyed women look to them. I wish I was kidding.
Reddit is a cesspool. Like, they literally post gore there for shits and giggles. Hardly the best place for women getting away from violence in general to be in. Not worth it.