Questions to ask on a first date?

Sit back and give him the reins to the conversation. Most men will tell on themselves if you simply listen and act accepting of whatever he says or does. Don’t try to control the date, just don’t go on a second date with him if he doesn’t meet your standards and liking, and even leave the first date early if he’s obviously a dud. On a first date, I expect a man to show he's pleasant, attentive, polite, entertaining, courteous, and respectful. If not, bye.

I don't think asking questions gets us very far. Men tell on themselves, and they're more likely to do it when they're comfortable. I think any questions we ask should just be general questions that are no different than what we'd ask a female during friendly conversation. I know it's tempting to ask dealbreaker questions like "do you want kids?" But I think a man who wants that will make it known, and a man who doesn't but wants to lead a woman on will lie and says he does.

I also think being a good listener and letting a man tell on himself is the smartest way to find his red flags.

Other than that, I would recommend asking the following questions, if you really want to cut to the chase:

1. Have you ever been married?

2. Do you have children?

3. Are you heterosexual?

Question 3 might catch men off-guard, but in my experience, they've all answered honestly. (And no, the answers to question 3 have not all been in the affirmative, believe it or not.)

Look in my profile for my post history. I have a whole post about questions to ask a new man.

None. Pay attention to whether he asks you about yourself. Just sit there and smile at him, be pleasant, and watch for whether he's trying to get to know you, or trying to make it all about himself and put himself on display. It is almost always the latter.

Of the myriad scrotes I've dated, almost none asked me any real questions about myself apart from a few surface-level stupid ones like what my favorite food is. Who cares, scrote?

i don't think there is a closed list of questions because dating is something too personal. but i think a good strategy is to make a list of the topics that matter the most for you and prepare your questions based on that. think about your values (which i'm assuming are very much aligned with FDS) and standards - which should be unnegotiable because rule #1 is to never ever lower your standards.

the questions should be unclear and scarce. why? because scrotes tell on themselves. you don't need to ask "do you watch porn?" - you can ask "what kind of porn do you like?". the first quetion might make him think too much to answer and be careful with his words because it's too direct. the second question gives him the impression you might be ok with him watching porn, so he'll be more at ease and thoughtless with his answer. another example: "what kind of relationship do you prefer? poly, monogamy, open-relationship?" --> better then "are you monogamous?"

but i'd say that better than asking questions you should let him talk as much as you can. it will make the vetting much easier because he won't feel like he's in a job interview. better to let them be themselves as much as possible.

I think save the bigger questions for later dates. Your first date is about gauging their vibe, looking for any obvious red flags (late? Didn't pay? Poorly groomed? Bad mannered?). Then if they pass these basics, you can ask more questions later on.

I heard in a Susan Winter live stream that she has a girlfriend who asks men if they have ever been to jail or prison, and she also asked them "does anyone think they are in a relationship with you?". Genius....

One time on a dating app, I think it was okay cupid, I asked a man if he had ever been to jail because I was watching a lot of Christina Randall videos lately. Much to my surprise, he actually answered yes, that he was living with a roommate who was a drug dealer and he confronted the drug dealer by slapping him or something, and then said the drug dealer roommate called the police. This makes no sense at all, no drug dealer is going to call the police to their home especially not over a petty slap. Unmatched with a quickness.

I ask if they ever have gotten a DUI and what their credit score is. Of course they can just lie but I still ask

Start the topic of "controversial" women or women widely hated by scrotes. For example, ask him what he thinks of Amber Heard and Johnny Deep drama. I'm not saying Amber is an angel, she also was abusive but so was probably Johnny, but if he immediately jumps to defending Johnny without any knowledge of their trial, that's a red flag.

You can also mention movies and tv shows with female characters hated by misogynistic male audience. Skyler from Breaking Bad is perfect example. Don't ask him literally "what do you think of Skyler from Breaking Bad?" but rather "Which character from Breaking Bad you don't like most", or just mention Breaking Bad and if he watched that show and said that Skyler is a bitch - run immediately. These kind of men do not accept any human flaws in a woman and they will berate you for not "accepting him as he is" and not granting his every need and wish. Run lol

Another idea I have picked up on from one really good post from times when FDS was still on reddit was to tell him a fake story in which you have been hurt/treated unfairly by another man in a minor way, eg. tell him you were in bus or train and some guy stepped on your foot. If he defends the guy despite you doing nothing wrong in that story - run.

Just please remember to not be too direct in all of that, try to mention these characters/shows in natural way so he won't catch that you're questioning him.

I always ask men what do you expect from me and what will you do in return? I won’t be your long time girlfriend giving you the husband privilege. Men either make themselves useful or they can leave.