Pickmeisha Magnet

Most women are PickMeisha’s that’s an unfortunate truth. Female centered women are not very common so it’s not that you’re picking PickMeisha’s it’s that most women are.

In my experience older (not elderly, as in older than you) women are less likely to be as doggedly male focused, just because they’re more likely to have more life experience. But then I’ve always gravitated towards people older than I am. Younger women tend to be confused and scattered brained, blindly seeking male approval with little awareness of the impact of internalized misogyny on their life. But then older women can also be Aunt Lydia types.

It seems she has a “crabs in a barrel” mentality. Such types will ruthlessly seek to elevate themselves at your expense, socially or in other ways. Women that exhibit such behaviors can be quite dangerous in my experience. I would advise that you tread carefully from a healthy distance. Or just cut her off really. Any woman 30 and above who is so boy crazy and basic cannot be redeemed.

It's so disheartening, isn't it? I refuse to have pickmeishas in my life. There is one, in particular, who i had to politely turn down recently. She kept wanting to meet up for coffee, but I want nothing to do with her. She has horrible taste in men, and I have kids. So being close to her would equal being close to those men, which would equal my kids being close to those men, which is an absolute nope! Unfortunately, just says after I rejected her friendship, my son came home from school to tell me about his new mutual crush... And guess who the new crush's mom is? Ugggh. I shudder to think what that girl has been exposed to, and what she might expose my son to, should they start dating. It's truly a minefield out there!

I feel you. I just discovered that two women I respect professionally are huge pick me's. It's really disappointing, but too common.

Then your vetting is working although that’s sad and frustrating. Sorry to hear.

All this is I was so happy to make a gay woman friend recently. No frigging pickmeisha drama.

I had a good friend that was a massive PickMe. I would be out with her and she would drop everything because a man had paid her attention. I remember being at a gig one night because she had really wanted to see this band and had no one to go with. I went along, but it turned out it was a ploy to get the attention of a guy she worked with that was there. She ended up hooking up with him (he had a gf) and I went home. A few days later she called me to say that this guy was ignoring her at work - what did she expect?! Then she met a guy online and he became her whole life. I went out for dinner with her and she spent the entire night texting him. After that, I just couldn’t be bothered always being ditched for a lvm and focused on my other friends.

So, my advice is to distance yourself from any “friend” that ditched you for a guy or puts you down in front of them.