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Hello.
I had a question, what do you do if you're not physically attractive? This isn't coming from a place of low self-esteem, more an objective overview of appearance. Not sure where to start with levelling up in terms of looks/appearance.
Is there some sort of guidance on this stuff somewhere?
Don't buy into the "you need to be hot to be successful" narrative. Look at actually successful women you know (I'm talking people who earn 6 figures in respectable fields). Most of them are middle aged and not conventionally attractive.
If you want power or money (same thing) you need marketable skills. If you want confidence, you need radical feminism. If you want love, you need connections with women and/or children and/or pets. If you want romantic love, you need high standards and luck.
Have you checked out the article on this site? "Why doesn’t FDS Focus on improving looks?
Every woman has been bombarded with images and messages about her body since birth. We know we don’t have to tell our subbies they need to groom themselves everyday, like the men seem to need to be told.
There are thousands of webpages dedicated to finding and fixing the most minuscule of physical flaws you can imagine, there’s no need to waste space on it here.
And Quite frankly, improving various aspects of your physical appearance is very much besides the point of using FDS. We don’t want to help you get into the practice of self loathing and never ending body criticism because it will hinder your level up progress."
https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/post/do-looks-matter-for-attracting-a-high-value-man-why-doesn-t-fds-focus-on-improving-external-beauty
Ok so I think lot of people misunderstood your question. I might be one of them so correct me if I'm wrong. Key word for me in your question was 'objective overview of appearance' sorry but if you think you're objectively not attractive then it most likely is coming from a place of low self esteem. Here I agree with others that your inherent worth shouldn't depend on your appearance. You will always feel 'objectively unattractive' if you do have low self esteem. Now actually answering the question, grooming is basic life skill i dont wanna shame anyone for wanting to enhance their looks. Idk why its so hard to fathom that some women genuinely enjoy hair, makeup, fashion. The key here is to build something which is authentic to you and not just perform for the male gaze. For me skin and hair care was the first step. Then fashion. I really love clothes and curating my own new aesthetic. For me clothes are my armour and your style is something you can control and is authentic to you as compared to other stuff so definitely focus on dressing up I'll suggest.
What is it that you feel makes you unattractive? I think the most important things to start with are having a consistent workout routine and healthy diet, removing unwanted facial and body hair, and having good hygiene.
Having a look or personal style. The kibbe body type chart helped me pick out clothing that actually works with my body type. I was just trying to wear baggy shapeless clothing before which did me no favors. There's a subreddit of girls that will help you figure out your body type or ask a family member/friend.
It's also good to know if you look good in winter or spring colors. Just have a friend look at you while you hold up something dark and winter palette up to your skin vs. Pastel and spring palette. One will make your skin look pale and washed out and one will make you look more rosy and vibrant.
Once you know what fit of clothes and what color clothes then you can have fun with style! Do you like retro stuff? Florals? Patterns? Gothic?
And I think having a piece or 2 of jewelry that is your like personal statement I wear this all the time jewelry is fun too.
Good hairdresser that you trust to give you a cut and style that suits you.
Sooo..... idk, everyone's different. You have to find what works for you. For me it were many little changes, or rather: routine. I get up in the morning and invest an hour or so into getting ready for the day, perhaps plus some time for a longer breakfast. I'll shower, do my skin and hair routine (clear skin and healthy hair is what does the deal), i wear nice clothes that make me feel good and look presentable, and i like to apply a little make up. Its the same almost every day. Also I douse myself in my favourite perfumes and if I'm feeling extra fancy I'm going for the silk scarf.