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picking you up from the airport
helping you move
taking care of you when you're sick
helping you run errands
opening doors
taking the check
complimenting you every time he sees you
not being attached to his phone in your presence
listening intently
prioritizing you over everything unimportant
asking your opinion on things
being respectful to you in public
never tolerating shit-talking about you
he should defend you
he cannot let his friends/family gang up on you
not grabbing your ass or embarrassing you/no embarrassing or dehumanizing PDA
treating you with the utmost kindness
he should think the best of you. He should not be paranoid or thinking the worst
respects your autonomy
he should be proud to have his relationship status known to everyone
he should post you on social media (not in an excessive, extra way, but like a normal, loving bf)
he should be making you feel beautiful
he should encourage your dreams and goals
he should keep his word. No flaking.
he should be remembering important holidays like your anniversary, your birthday, and Valentine's Day, writing cards and getting gifts for these events
he should be respectful to your friends and family
he should pay for your Uber to go see him
he should answer phone calls and texts in a timely fashion
he should remember your likes, dislikes, and preferences
he should take your comfort and safety into consideration at all times
he can't make you look foolish or stupid in front of anyone
he needs to be tactful enough to know not to bring up exes or other dumb shit
he should not be sweeping anything under the rug, he should be able to communicate productively, like an adult
he should get you water and food and not expect you to just help yourself, he should have a lot of courtesy and the desire to do things for you in general
Don't be gaslighted into thinking these basic common courtesy things are abnormal. My mind was blown when I found out one of my girl friend's boyfriend never picks her up from the airport. Who does that? I know y'all would take your friends and even friends of friends if they asked. What kind of a bf isn't there to greet his beloved girlfriend and help her with her bags?
Lurkers, notice that effort, kindness, and respect are all free. 🤯
Stay safe. Stay Woman.
it’s sad this is the bare minimum and a lot of guys can’t do these things
Man this hits hard… my ex was very paranoid of me and competitive with me which I didn’t understand. He also has no tact and would just randomly tell me things about his exes. Also at parties when we walked in together he would never go get me a drink or a burger at a bbq - I was always just on my own to figure it out.
Really hoping this exists. Crosses fingers. Because I have not experienced most of these bullet points.
So basically get a man who treats women like humans.
I have a question. If theres something on this list he doesnt do, should you just break up with him or should you tell him you want him to start doing it?