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What is it with old (50+ year old) bald men on Facebook with gray beards and the remaining hairs on their heads being gray going out of their way to put down women who are over age 25, 30, 35 or 40?
Like sir, you are a baby boomer and old enough to be the grandpa of a woman who is 21. What do you have to offer a woman who is under age 40 or 35 that isn't money that a man who isn't 40 or 35 can't? Why would an 18 year old girl be attracted to you in any way, shape, or form outside or you providing financially for her with a certain kind of lifestyle? And when you die will she still be set for the rest of her life? Will she be stuck taking care of you in your old age?
If I marry a guy who is 20 years older than me, then that means that when I am 60 he will be 80 and when I am 70 he will be 90. I work with a lot of 60-70 year olds and many have to work to manage their finances and my job is energy draining and not easy (lots of driving).
I can't imagine being 55 and having a 75 year old husband. He will be retired and chill after work and I will be exhausted and running around my challenging job but older and less physically able to handle that job.
Then as he hits his 80s and I am in my 60s I will not only have to work, but I will have to take on the role of caregiver for my elderly husband. I also would likely have young adult kids who even if independent will still need help and support. And if they have grandkids then I would also want time to see them.
So I would be balancing a full time job, taking care of my elderly husband, helping my adult kids manage life, and visiting and hopefully also being an active part of my grandkids life. Yikes.
Unless the guy is ridiculously rich and can provide for me to retire early or stay home and can support me after he dies, then what is the point of being with an old guy? And why do they think they have so much to offer younger women when they clearly don't?
Women in health care see what’s coming.
The increased decline of men has seriously put a halt on my dating interest. I now have more and more men in their early 50s taking such bad care of their health that they’re getting feet and legs amputated. It never used to be this bad. But as a 40 year old woman there’s a risk to me I’d only get 10-15 years out of a relationship followed by a long stretch of doing for free what I’m paid to do during the day.
It’s pretty discouraging.
This really started to weigh on me in my last relationship. He was 20 years older and I remember thinking ‘so you’re gonna be retired and I’m gonna work? And I’m gonna be stuck with an old ass man while I’m still young?’ No fucking way. Im currently on vacation and met a friend of a friend (gay couple) and one guy is in his 70s vs his partner in his early 50s. The young guy loves hiking and being active, but can’t cuz of his partner. It made me glad I ditched my ex (for the billionth time) and renew my vow to never date older than me. 5 years is it. Unless there’s $10m deposited to my account, get the fuck away from me
We women have the power to shut these men up. Women who are in their 20’s reject every man who is years older than you. Only older in months is acceptable. If the vast majority of women say no to old men then their attitude will change. They will not put women down, they will not disrespect them. They will never ever do that childish crap because no young woman is chasing them. They are either forced to be respectful or date their own age. I don’t understand why these creeps won’t look for attractive women their own age. There are so many women who are attractive all the way up to their 70’s. Sure they use liposuction, breast lifts and plastic surgery but they are the appropriate age. Don’t give older men another chance at starting a family, they should have done that in their prime years instead of using women. 20’s is a man’s prime, 30 is the end of his prime so he should have gotten his act together, have a job move out of his parents home and look for a wife. They have 10 years for that yet they waste it Because according to their pedo fantasy their dream girl is still in primary school.
The point of being with an older guy is (sometimes) about wanting to date, but being faced with only scrotey, 50/50, zero effort, unkempt, pornsick younger men with no money. So an older guy comes along and asks a young woman out to a nice dinner, knows how to be fake nice and say all the right things… soon enough she’s in love. The last thought on her mind is cleaning up the bathroom in 15 years when he’s lost bowel function. This is what I’ve seen happen time and again.
I once dated a guy while I was in my early 20s who was about 25 years older than me. He couldn't catch his breath after 5 minutes in the bedroom and slept 10h a day. He was more immature than many guys my age, but I refused to believe my eyes for a while. I was always told how older men are better as they know how to treat a woman and are not impatient and selfish...well I'm not saying all older guys are like that, but I've hear my story from other people saying the same thing. Older men may be courteous and generous with their same aged wives inside their families. Older men who hunt younger women are not like those men. These men are leftovers, since no woman has tried to "keep them". They kept getting tossed away or taking themselves out on their own, like good trash. Don't date leftover men.
When I was in my early 20s I dated a man 17 years older than me (I know). Looking back I’m sad that no one in my life batted an eyelash or said a word except a coworker of mine in her 50s. She was married to a much older man and sat me down and told me that my long-term future would be acting as a nurse to him and not being able to do anything or go out anywhere or travel. That she regretted her life and was unhappy. That she didn’t want to spend the rest of her good years changing his colostomy bag or managing his dialysis machine. I’m still thankful to her. It should’ve been everyone in my life warning me, though.
If he is closer with his age to my father than me, it is so nauseating. Man is 20 years older than me but only 5 years younger than my father... 🤮