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Yes, you all read that right. After I got my driver's license, I was still practicing driving with my mom to improve my skills. I told her I wanted to go practice tomorrow morning and she tells me until i get a boyfriend, no more driving. She's so fed up and frustrated (I posted about her before regarding this so you all can look through my profile if interested) about me still not having anyone. Yes, she is aware of how stupid this is but she will not change her mind. Unless I get my own car, then I can continue practicing.
I don't know what to do anymore. WTF does me not having a boyfriend yet have to do with driving??????????
And no, I cannot afford to move out.
I hope you guys can give me ideas on how to convince her because this is so fucking stupid. If she can't stand that I'm still single that's her fucking problem.
I am so pissed off I don't even know what to do.
UPDATE: I talked to my mom and how she made me feel and I told her a car for me is having somewhat of an independence. She actually changed her mind.
No male friends that can pretend for you? Or like a friend's brother or bf? Show her a pic of a cute guys insta that your mom would approve of (race/religion) and say he's been talking to you, wants to date you, whatever. Don't be combative just be a good liar. Girlboss gatekeep gaslight let's go!
Living in an abusive home it's better to just play along on the surface but always be making steps toward your independence without them knowing. With a fake ass smile on your face.
You could tell your mom that your chances of finding a boyfriend goes down if you can't expand your search radius, and you can't expand your search radius if you can't drive.
Surely your mom can't argue with my impeccable logic.
(I'm sorry you have to deal with this at all. Your getting to drive shouldn't be contingent on your relationship status! But sometimes when someone is stuck on a stupid notion, we have to get what we want by playing to that stupid notion.)
Ive seen a 106 year old woman who got her drivers licence at 96. When ppl asked why it took her so long she said her husband didn’t allow it and when he died she quickly made a plan to achieve some of her dreams he denied her. Like driving her own car. She said when she dies her great grand son who is the eldest can have her car.
She maybe has 1 year left of her life while her whole life could have been great if men didn’t got between that.
Its a shame that Marriage gets treated like the best thing in a woman’s life. Men sold the lie that they come in peace while they have the word “Invader” written on their foreheads. The colonise your life and I have no idea how to make sure that doesn’t happen.
this is soooo lame. the cultural obsession with coupledom for young women is maddening.
Look up driving schools/teachers in your area? You’ll have to save up for it obviously if you can’t afford it right now.
You can’t convince your mom to do anything. You can only focus on yourself. Can you use public transportation or ride a bicycle?
If your mother doesn't change her mind, it might be worth your while getting a job or saving as much money as you can in order to pay for driving lessons. Another option might be to ask around to see if any of your relatives are willing to give you lessons or let you practice using their car.
You be the judge on whether this is safe to do or not, but speak from the heart. Say how it makes you feel, that you aren't "good enough" to drive unless you have male validation. Say what your opinion is of her now, that she is invalidating your choices. How will this affect your relationship in the long term?
What is she actually telling you? I want you to be like me? You're too independent? Having a man is the only way to live?
I think that your mom believes she's doing A Good Thing. You will find a man, learn to drive and be happy. Problem solved.
Try having a discussion with her on those deeper values.
You can also try removing your affection, given that she is blackmailing you.
Pickmes are a different breed😳 how are you gonna cape for a male that is completely hypothetical? I'm sorry op for not offering advice but I'm just shocked
Can you take driver’s ed classes? Some of them have a student car that they use for the course