Amen!! Y’all it took me until my 40s to realize this. We think if we’re super nice to them and take care of them they will do the same for us. IT DOESNT WORK THAT WAY. When we are super nice to them and do everything for them it SPOILS them and they immediately begin taking us for granted. You have to keep them on their toes. Keep them working for you. Let them know you will leave the instant they fuck up.I can hear the pickmeishas … “That’s so MEAN! I would NEVER treat my man that way!” Well… You are going to have a spoiled man baby on your hands before you know it.
Exactly but there's something sadistic about having to behave with a grown adult that way so I just stay away from them. If I've to act cold and play games and treat a person abusively to get them to just start taking notice I'm around and then I've to put more effort in to get them to 'love' me, it's too much. I don't need the manipulation men bring into my life. When I'm stressed I look and feel like shite. I'm 5 years without a steady relationship/ partner but you know what, I was recently told I look 20 years younger than my age.
I don’t want to play this diabolical game as well. I want someone well rounded, self aware, self assured and mentally stable. I don’t want someone who has been be constantly manipulated into common decency. What would that make me? I cannot be happy in that dynamic. I want someone I can freely reciprocate with, and not walk on eggshells, microdosing my love bc they can only exist on the extreme ends of dominance and victim hood. I also lose respect when my kindness is met with disdain or ingratitude.
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Amen!! Y’all it took me until my 40s to realize this. We think if we’re super nice to them and take care of them they will do the same for us. IT DOESNT WORK THAT WAY. When we are super nice to them and do everything for them it SPOILS them and they immediately begin taking us for granted. You have to keep them on their toes. Keep them working for you. Let them know you will leave the instant they fuck up. I can hear the pickmeishas … “That’s so MEAN! I would NEVER treat my man that way!” Well… You are going to have a spoiled man baby on your hands before you know it.
Exactly but there's something sadistic about having to behave with a grown adult that way so I just stay away from them. If I've to act cold and play games and treat a person abusively to get them to just start taking notice I'm around and then I've to put more effort in to get them to 'love' me, it's too much. I don't need the manipulation men bring into my life. When I'm stressed I look and feel like shite. I'm 5 years without a steady relationship/ partner but you know what, I was recently told I look 20 years younger than my age.
This is so true. The meaner/less available I am to men, the more they want to be around me. A lot of them are borderline masochistic.
Speak their language and see right through them. 💯
This is insanely true. Started doing this almost a year ago now and the positive outcomes have been a bit mind blowing.
Healthy men like women who respect themselves.
Understanding this simple truth is the absolute key to women leveling up in dating men.
It’s so true.