Never trust a scrote who claims to have been "falsely accused of rape"

YEP this is absolutely true.

Also, guys who try and bring up rape "hypothetically" "in the abstract" as a "casual topic to discuss" are either rapists, too, or wish they were rapists. A guy once "casually" asked me what I thought about rape being depicted in movies. He knew I'd been raped. He chose to ask me about rape, specifically. Not violence in general. Rape. As opposed to, oh, I don't know, special effects in movies, actors in movies, the Hollywood writers' strike, my interests or goals in life, how pretty my eyes looked, or literally ANYTHING OTHER THAN RAPE. 99% of men wish they could rape you, if they're not rapists already.

I hope your rapist got arrested and then tortured and maimed in jail.

i wish we lived in a society where men would go to jail for rape accusations without any proof. like, a woman accuses him of rape and he is automatically guilty and convicted. i know it sounds unfair, but bear with me...

we live in fear of being raped, murdered, etc by men, especially our intimate partners. we need to be very careful about everything we do and don't do, everthing we say and don't say. we cannot relax and experience love and relationships spontaneously because of that threat. and if something bad happens, like rape, it's extremely difficult to prove. usually, the rapist gets to walk free and rape more women. what if men lived with the fear of being thrown into jail for being falsely accused of rape? i think they would be more careful about consent, they wouldn't me promiscuous, they'd be more respectful. women would have more power. we would literally have that power at the tip of our tongues.

"but there would certainly be mean women who would take advantage of that situation and many innocent men would end up in jail!" - oh yeah? well, in that case just remember that not all women.

Thanks for the warning! Luckily, I have not encountered this situtation in my personal life, but I'll keep your experience in mind if it comes up.

Once, I went on a date with a man who said the last woman he had gone on a date with had started calling him names and literally run from him "for no reason" and disappeared into the night. I wondered what he'd done to make her react that way; only a terrified person would run full speed from a date. This is similar to your situation in that there is usually a good reason for a woman to accuse a man of rape or run away from him. And the reason does not involve him being guiltless.

For me this is an example of the simplest explanation being true in 95% of cases.

If a woman accuses a man of rape, what's the most likely option if we look at men, the patriarchy and how fucked up the world is:

a) he really raped her (even if he didn't see it as rape, e.g. nagged or pressured her into sex, had sex with her when she was too drunk to consent, she consented to act A and he did B without warning...)

b) he hurt her or her loved ones in another way that went completely unpunished, so she made the rape allegation out of desperation to finally be heard and to punish him for his other deeds

c) she's a total psychopath who made up a rape allegation about a man who has never been anything but good to her for fun ... because women absolutely do that and go through the whole humiliating process because it's so much fun to see him squirm

( d) only applies if he is a public figure or in a position that would fit: his enemies made up a complicated plot to tarnish his good name or blackmail him because of his position)

My ex was the exact same. Absolute piece of shit

I hope your rapist is dead.

There are also guys who think it's funny to say "Hi I'm Matt, I'm not a rapist" , like wow so cool you thought that was funny and appropriate. A supervisor said that to me and then literally complained he was reported to HR once a week because he was hitting on random female employees nonstop, they're not even people I swear

And as a rape survivor, I would like to also rephrase this to never accept the "story" of any man who says a woman "misunderstood" or there was a "misunderstanding"...unless you have her side of it and she says that it was...this is almost always a complete fabrication.

(Major misunderstandings, particularly with something like rape, cannot be based on a single person saying it is so. It has be to be confirmed by both parties as an actual misunderstanding they agree happened, or it is not one. Without the word of both persons, it is just someone trying to cover up wrongdoing by gaslighting and blame-shifting their accountability away.)

Statements from rapists that their actions were "misunderstood" are always a red flag. Particularly is this troubling when it's someone who is no longer acquainted with you [an ex or estranged friend/ex-partner] or a stranger [who never really got a chance to know you well].

But even if they have gotten closer or reaquainted to you, calling rape a "misunderstanding" is really a disgusting thing to say to gaslight and cover up their abuse.