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Hi. Wanted to share my experience with a dating company. In my city, there is only one company who provides this service. I checked their website, and sign up to be in their database, it was all free of course. I signed up 6-7 months ago. This was in my pre-FDS days. I had kinda forgotten about it. Then the so-called "match-maker" contacted me, telling me there were men that she think could suit me. I was curious. She sent over the presentations.
(A little bit about me - 35 years, I have a masters degree, have my own company, have a house, car, doing well etc).
There were 5 possible candidates. Only 2 of them was listed with age. Like, why wtf werent the others listed with their age? Isnt that relevant for me? would a man accept not knowing a womans age? No, he wouldnt. Those with age were 40 and 41. Two of the men were listed with their height, they were OK tall. What about the others then?? Probably short... All of them were either bald or balding. One of them were physically fit, he had a blue collar job. The others had a beer belly, or looked skinny-fat. All of them listed that they wanted a woman who were physically active, when they were clearly not that themselves?! Wtf?! One profile said "Working out should be self-evident for my partner". Shouldnt the match-maker tell them to fix their own physical health before they ask for a woman to have it? I feel its just a sly way of saying "You need to be skinny".
They were also all looking for a "generous woman", whatever that means... And 3 were looking for "a generous and independent woman". Two of them were looking for a "woman who is generous, kind, spontaneous and flexible".
All of the men were described as "Kind". Some were presented as "Works in engineering", "Works as a engineer", and one "Has a stabile job". The highest level of education was a bachelorsdegree in engineering. 3 of them did not have higher education. The standards are just low.... And she is trying to sell it. She is only a sales-person. Trying to push a bad product, instead of improving the product.
The "match-maker", a woman, was obviously ONLY working for the men here. And seems to advocate for women to lower their standards. Instead of guiding these men to be better in life... The match-maker is not helping these men, she is just taking their money. I feel the whole idea is anti-women. Somehow because they are kind and has a job, they are presented as possible candidates to women? Wtf?!
(Disclaimer: This was written in a hurry, and english is not my first language).
we all know what 'generous and independent and flexible' really means to those scrotes, right?
trying to date someone as a hetero woman is so fucking depressing. seriously, i'd rather die alone. this shit makes me angry.
Run away from engineers! They are the worst men I found, my ex, his friends, they are all low value scrotes and the funny thing is that they don’t even do any engineering. They are so dumb 🤣
The sad thing is, she probably gave you some of her best men. Looking for a suitable HVM is like looking for a needle in a haystack. You definitely won’t be served up 5 on a plate by a matchmaker. I love that you are so successful and keeping your standards high!
Sorry this woman wasted your time. If I were you, I would ask her to remove my profile since she is essentially using HVW as bait to get LVM on the hook for her services.
This is also why I’m anti dating apps (I think this is an overall FDS rule but correct me if I’m wrong..) It’s been my experience that good looking HVM don’t need apps or matchmakers to find women. They will get set up by friends, family and coworkers or have no trouble meeting desirable women on their own. Usually it’s the chronically horny, socially inept and balding, fat uggos who need to resort to matchmaking or online dating for love.
A redditor who worked for these businesses revealed that these companies just pick people at random. There is no science or special selector it's all just BS
Glad someone tried it. Double standards between men and women apply here with the same rule being good men don’t need to resort to these tactics because they should be able to find good women to choose from in his every day life.
Men will NOT improve themselves, and matchmakers make their money on women not men. Matchmaking agencies have so few men, because every decent man who's got a job has no problem getting women. Women spends tens of thousands pf dollars on matchmakers, but there just isn't the equivalent of a well educated, kind, successful woman in the man's world who's single..Men who succeed in life are never single unless he really picked a bad woman or his woman died. My uncle was a wealthy alcoholic who used to beat the fuck outta my aunt. After she died of liver cancer, 5 women came out of the woodwork at church in the first 2 weeks after her death. He was remarried within 6 months to a gold digger who stole my and my sister's inheritance from him. Good men don't need matchmakers or even OLD.