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Hi everyone! Long time lurker, first time poster. I'm not completely sure I picked the right flair,
A bit of background information:
I have double citizenship and finished high school in my dad's country, my ex and I started dating at the start of our sophomore year. After graduating, I moved to my mom's country due to the possibility to attend a very good university. In the meantime, my parents also moved back to my mom's country, but in a different region, which means that my first two years of uni were spent traveling a lot to visit both my family and my boyfriend / friends in that country. I lost contact with most of my friends like what normally happens, I broke up with him 3 months ago and haven't been in that country since.
Yesterday I turned 21! I went to my parents' place and had a small party with my family and friends. About half an hour before midnight, I got a text for my ex (I sincerely don't know why I hadn't blocked and deleted yet) asking me "Aren't you gonna celebrate in [city he lives in]?"
The friend that was still with me at the time basically said "that just represents his whole personality", putting himself / his wants and needs before me in every single instance, like asking me if I was geographically close to him without wishing me a happy birthday first. I swear all men have is audacity.
While mildly infuriating, it just further confirmed that I 100% made the right choice and I have to thank all of you ladies for opening my eyes and giving me the strength to leave that toxic relationship. I made new friends, picked up a couple of hobbies I stopped spending time on after getting with him, I'm getting back on track with my university coursework and my overall mood is much better.
Even with an asshole constantly tearing me down, this group really uplifted me and I'll never be able to express just how much I'm grateful for this. I hope you all have a really nice day and a great Halloween!
happy birthday! 🥳 you're gonna start off your adulthood in the best mindset possible.
Honestly?? I think you should have another birthday to counteract the one he ruined, gather some friends and party! Also, happy birthday.
Happy Birthday! Yeah, he’s a jerk for ruining your birthday. I know guys like that wish their exes HBD just to see if their exes will take them back and just to see if there's any chance of getting back together. It’s really pathetic.
Happy Birthday!! 21 is such a good number and you’ve already got so many things figured out. Hope the rest of your school goes well! <3
Godspeed, Queen!!
At one point he was special to you. You obviously put a lot of work into the relationship. Toxic or not, once someone finds a place in your heart they’ll always be there. It’s only been 3 months.. and it’s your birthday. Which is a special day for you… when someone loves you, they want to get to share those days with you. I doubt he’s stupid enough to actually think he’s gonna get to do that… but there are 5 stages of grief.. and he’s still only in the first one. He just misses you and probably always will and wishes he could have seen you on your birthday. Don’t give him false hope… but be mean to him either. Tell the kid, Thank you for thinking of me on my birthday, but we both know I’m not coming there :/ Then go back to doing you.