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So, about the scrote:
He's currently dating my sister. They've been dating for a year and a half (more or less). After their three months together, my sister found out this scrote who she met on Tinder used to "date" me a while back (6-ish years ago). It wasn't a long relationship, but we hooked up and we went on a few dates. He was an incredible NVM back then and although I was in a bad place, I did realize all the same that he's basically radioactive.. the "relationship" petered out.
However, when he met my sis, he told her I was "just an acquaintance," "forgot" to tell her about the rest.
When she found out (on her birthday, btw), that was the perfect moment for her to kick his ass, and/or light his stuff on fire. She didn't. Fast forward a few months. He told her that he used to be a drug addict. Err, wrong. After a bag of speed fell out of his pocket later, he came clean - he's still "struggling with hard drugs addiction," the poor dear.
Long story short, my sister's still dating him, he's living at her beautifully refurbished big place, using her car, etc. Not sure if he's still using drugs, but my sister's mental health seems a bit better than before, so I assume he's got his shit together at least a bit.
Although my mother was very worried about him when she found out about the drugs, all seems forgotten now. Poor dear (PD) has Covid and my sister's taking care of him. My mother is sympathetic to PD - wanted to send him Christmas decorations and food, because "he'll be alone." Yeah, for a few hours, when my sister is at family dinner. If it wasn't for our family, he'd be alone in his small dingy, apartment, blowing his nose into his dirty bed sheets.
I should have asked my mum: "Why not send speed instead?"
Before he got Covid, the plan was he would take my sister's car to visit his relatives in another city. When I heard that, I was furious, and asked whether she's seriously gonna stay without a car because of him, and whether he couldn't take the train.. my mother and my sister both looked at me like I'm crazy. Mother said "it's none of your business."
I'm still hoping my sister will see the light and kick him to the curb in a few years. However, I told her that if she ever brings him to a family gathering, I will attack him with a shovel. So, at least I don't have to interact with him.
It's just a rant. I know I can't do shit with this situation.. I'm just keeping my shovel near.
Thank you for this wonderful forum!
Does your mom hate your sister or something? I can't imagine being supportive of my daughter letting some drug-addicted freak leech off of her, let alone one who had already had a sexual relationship with my other daughter! WTAF
This sounds like a powder keg that will blow at some point. He’s got a drug problem and a lying problem so you’re well out of it but I can’t imagine the threat of possibly seeing him. Hope your sister doesn’t spring him on you when you’re not expecting it. It baffles me that you’ve said all that you’ve said super clearly and she’s still with him. Wow. I just can’t even with pick me behavior. I would, though, pay top dollar to watch you go after him with a shovel!
I would never in a MILLION years date a guy who f*cked my sister. This guy thinks he’s slick and will probably try to bang your Mom. There are lots of guys online talking about how they f*cked every girl in a family, and they’re patting themselves on the back about it. You could send them some of those posts about men bragging about f*cking entire families of women, since they seem SO clueless as to the predatory nature of men. I’d stay far away from your sister and mother during this time and hope they come to their senses. I’m sorry this is happening to your family, but it’s actually common. Men are depraved.
She will learn all on her own in good time. If you can stand it and she is the stubborn type (pick mes usually are) then save the venting for us because she may be the type to dig her heels in to “prove you wrong”. Definitely dont be around him but if you want him gone asap, this could be the way to go. That is IF you can stomach it.
oh and he DEFINITELY STILL DOING DRUGS. This coming from a former addict. I hope they dont have children or pets because rough types hang around when you are associated with drugs and I wouldnt put it past this guy to run up a debt or something dumb.
I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine having a sister who is having a relationship with a guy I dated. Your sister should’ve dumped him when she found out. There are so many man out there and she wants to be with the same her sister has been with. This is so creepy. Seriously. I just couldn’t do it. He is also a parasite, living in her house, using her car. Eventually she will notice he is trash. I hope in future she will find someone else.