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Men love to say shit like women will die old and alone if they don't marry by the age of 30. But in reality men are the ones who die alone and most of the time its their own damned fault. It's projection.
Men usually end up old and alone for the following reasons:
They've Burnt every bridge they had: It's very common for men to burn every bridge they have either through heavy drug abuse or simply being so obnoxious that nobody wants to put up with them anymore, not even their own families or their partners. Maybe they took out their anger on their partner one too many times. Maybe they leeched off their families and friends.
They refuse to even try to cultivate genuine friendships outside of marriage/dating: Most men tend to have shallow "friendships" outside of dating/marriage . So when the partner dies/leaves (assuming they even had one to begin with) , shit hits the fan and they end up alone in the creek without a paddle. This is especially true for men who were using their partner as a fuckmommy/ free maid/chef/day planner.
Whearas most women at least try to maintain genuine friendships and stay in contact with their families.
Men are the most unlikable, passive aggressive, dry begging piece of trash when they think they have options. when that bubble pops they want to settle down for any woman or the ones they left behind. They want you to feel sorry for them and save them from becoming a biological failure when the wall hits him harder than the super hot cat lady.
I'm happy that men's prediction about women happens to them.
Story time: I once had an uncle who was a real LVM. He treated everyone around him, especially the women in his life like trash. When he was in his 50s, he had a forever girlfriend. This poor woman clearly had social anxiety, yet he'd bring her to all the family gatherings where she would be interrogated as to why she and my uncle hadn't married yet and people would make sarcastic comments. Trust me, anyone would have found this stressful so I imagine that someone like her who had social anxiety would have found it torture. (Side note - why do people insist on asking the forever girlfriend why she and her boyfriend aren't married when society expects the man to propose?! Shouldn't they be asking the man instead?). Eventually, his forever girlfriend killed herself. Obviously I can't prove why she took her own life but I definately think that the way my uncle treated her didn't help matters.
My uncle also treated his mother like trash. He lived with his mother under the pretext that he was her caregiver but in reality, he lived there rent free while my grandmother waited on him hand and foot. If anyone was the caregiver, it was my grandmother. He wouldn't even give my grandmother a ride to the grocery store and most of the groceries she was buying were for him. When my grandmother was dying, my uncle wouldn't even give her a ride to the hospital. A neighbour had to do it.
When my grandmother died, my uncle fell out with most of the family. Part of it was the way he treated my grandmother and another part of it that he told a pack of lies about my grandmother's will. He claimed that the house was going to be left to the grandchildren. I went to my grandmother's solicitor and asked about the will purely because I wanted to know what the truth was. The solicitor read the will to me and my uncle had been left everything. (Just to be clear, my issue wasn't that my uncle inherited everything. My issue is that he lied about it).
About 10 years after my grandmother died, my uncle died of cancer. He never bothered to maintain the house he had inherited so the house was absolutely filthy and falling down around him by the time he died. He died alone because he had alienated everyone in his life, in a house that didn't even have heating because he felt disinclined to pay heating bills. If that happened to anyone else, I'd have had sympathy but given how he treated everyone, especially his girlfriend and my grandmother, I have none.
This is true. Also, a lot of men get scrotal edema when they get old. Being a nurse and seeing that (along with the fungusy smells of men who don't take care of themselves) totally killed the fantasy I had of an older gentleman sweeping me off my feet.
This is how I see some of my colleagues going down…
Many of them are divorced, or never been married. They don’t have this realization (despite some of them going to therapy), that it’s their character. They are just insufferable and hard to be around no matter how hard a women tries. It seems like you’re just walking on eggshells trying to avoid a bomb from detonation.