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I tend to break this rule while leveling up coz pick me traits die hard . I never once got the outcome I wanted when I tried to explain my emotions to men nor even once ..
I wish I knew this sooner. I thought explaining how his behaviour gets on my nerves will help him understand. Nope. When I was considering snapping ties the pity party and the love bombing starts and the next day he’s just turned back to his asshole ways. I don’t even have the energy to argue or whine about how disrespected I feel now that I left my pickme ways behind. Im not even bothered to talk, I promised my self never again. As soon as disrespect is served and I don’t care why he did that then it’s goodbye. I’ll even walk away from the 10 year relationship If I have to but I’m not staying. Name calling? Bye. Excuses why you’re always late? Bye, You’re too busy to be a partner I deserve? Bye. Embarrass me in public? Bye. Going against my wishes? Bye, Rules for thee but not for me mentality? Bye. No longer attentive? Bye.
Bye just Bye. I’m letting you stand on the bridge you burned and I’m not looking back.
The Silent Treatment. A tactic women have known forever, yet women continue to listen to men saying "Silence is not rational, communication is rational." Men aren't rational, that's why communication doesn't work with them. You can communicate until you're blue in the face when a man doesn't care about what you're saying.
They get so aggravated by it! I know it's not conducive to a good relationship, but honestly nor is repeating yourself pointlessly and endlessly. If you find yourself repeatedly doing either, leave. He doesn't give a damn, so you shouldn't.
This is why you block and delete. Don't explain yourself. Don't argue, or debate, or try to communicate endlessly hoping he'll finally understand. He won't. They have exactly one chance to fix their fuck-up. You tell them what is expected, they either buck up or you move on. It really is that simple.
They also respect aggression and violence, too. I know that sounds disturbing, but it's true. In one previous job that I had to face customers all day, whenever the men started their shit, I would quite literally start speaking through my teeth and glare at them like I'm ready to murder them. They IMMEDIATELY softened up and started speaking to me with respect. Some even came back later on to apologize to me face to face. All the times I've spent in my life cOmMuNiCaTiNg just lead to horrible things happening to me, or them ignoring me, or start verbally abusing me.
When they strike, strike them back with the power of ten suns. They will immediately shut up and do what you say.
My ex husband used to dip Copenhagen and leave bottles of dip spit around the house. I was recovering from breaking my neck, so I'd ask him very nicely to please throw away the dip spit cans into the trash, because if the dog walks by and swings her tail, the dip spit is gonna go all over the carpets, and I was too injured to use a heavy wet vac to clean it up. I asked him nicely for 2 YEARS, and he wouldn't listen. The last time, he actually balanced the dip spit can in the middle of the couch where I always sat so that I'd see it in the morning when I walked downstairs. So I lost it. I took that can of dip spit upstairs to his bathroom, pulled up the stopper in the sink, threw all of his toiletries into the sink, and poured the dip spit onto them. Then when he came home from work, he had a little surprise upstairs. I told him if he wanted a war, he'd picked the wrong girl. I filed for divorce a couple of weeks later. Just called the movers and left without telling him. He called me crying, "You just leave without calling me?" You have to be a devil to deal with these man devils.
Men are just as socially aware as women are, and are capable of picking up on the same social cues. The big lie that women have been sold is that men just dOn'T uNDeRstAnD wOmEN!!1!
They absolutely do. Women have just been gaslit into thinking that men somehow deserve a pass because they are genuinely ignorant. They are NOT. They know. And because they know, we don't waste our breath trying to "make them understand" for their twisted amusement.
Ignore. Punish. They learn quick not to pull the same crap again, if they are a man worth having around. If they persist in their nonsense, then throw that relationship out the door with the man.
yep men don’t care about how you feel
Absolutely true. They also DON’T respond to silence: that is to say, whenever a LV scrote harassed me online, not engaging was the best and fastest way to get them to fuck off. They might have an extinction burst (mine made a million fake accounts to message me from before fading as he wasn’t getting any attention) of sorts, but engaging in ANY way always extended the fuck off time.