Backstory: I have a 9 year old, but I am married to a man who is not her father but he is her "bonus pappa" as we say in Sweden. Now usually he's helpful in regards to her, but I recently switched offices in my company, the old office was really close to where we lived (walking distance) and it was easy to take my daughter to school and go straight into the office. Now my office is in the direct center of our city, so now I have to bike to work (the central city parking for cars is obscenely expensive, so biking makes economic sense) and taking her to school will be significantly harder and time-consuming. Biking with her to school in Swedish autumn rain and the upcoming winter will be a struggle, so I asked him if he could start dropping her off in the car in the morning (he starts work an hour later than I do, so it makes sense to me) on his way to work (which has free parking), and he acted like this is a silly solution. Somehow he thinks that biking with her to school in the dark mornings, out of my way to get to my new office, and in shitty weather is a great solution! But taking her to school in the car (which takes 5 minutes) is just "not a sustainable solution." Like what? How?? His behaviour has always been that of a HVM (truly), then he springs this completely irrational unwillingness to do a very simple task to make my life (and my daughter's life) significantly easier. Why are men??!?!? 🙄
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Something tells me his resistance stems from being "inconvenienced" by a kid who isn't his. He feels warm and fuzzy being the good guy until it costs him time and effort
Where is he going in the morning before work?
There’s a future bonus poppa for your sweet girl who you haven’t met yet, but will HAPPILY assist you with this incredibly easy for him task.
It’s because it’s not his kid. 100%. This scrote is NOT high value and you’ve just seen the mask slip. My fiancé would NEVER let this happen. He would be too worried for our safety. Maybe take a harder look at him, OP.
He doesn’t sound HVM at all to me. If he is a good step father he would happily take her to school and make sure you are both happy and safe.
If that man actually let’s you take your daughter in the dark on a bike to school, then you have some decisions to make. Don’t ask again and don’t complain or guilt trip him. Just see what he does, and then proceed accordingly.
Divorce him