I have been celibate since July of 2021, which is the month I was finally free of my abuser of 6 years. I am still healing 20 months later. Although I am not ready to seriously date again, I wanted to test out some FDS rules IRL. I am still pretty new to it all having only discovered FDS in Dec 2022. So I haven't had any IRL practice of the rules yet.
A week ago, A younger male approached me. Because I look younger, he thought I was around his age, but I told him my real age, and he says, that I've still got it, and he prefers older women because females his age play too many games. Uumm K.. He said he moved to my state from Texas 8 months ago and wanted to actively date, that he didn't drink, and that he wanted to take me out etc. Ok. I already knew from the age difference that it wasn't going to work, but I wanted to practice my FDS muscles per se.
Well his mask slipped in one week. It only took me 2 times of me asserting my boundaries before he was insulting and disrespecting me. He texts for a same day date. I tell him I already have cycling plans with friends. Because no last minute dates! Then he texts at 11:30pm saying he's thinking about me. I tell him I'm going to bed cause I've got to work.
Then what does he do? The very next night at exactly 11:30pm, he straight up asks me for a booty call. After me saying how I sleep at that time and have to work. He just straight up completely disrespecte me.
Well I decided to go off on him. I know the advise is to immediately b and d. But I really wanted to disrespect him right back for disrespecting me in such a horrible way. Anyways, I attached the screenshots.
But its amazing how I have been protecting myself for 20 months, and the first time I open the door a little crack, I get heavily verbally abused for enforcing my standards.
I hate when guys say "you still got it". I'm 35 and I had a young guy at work keep telling me over and over again how I "still got it." Like no shit I'll always still have it. I don't need your male validation.